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I've never been so insulted in my life.

My aunt had a serious mid-life crisis last summer, to the point that we were scared she was having some mental issues. Long story short, she did tons of crazy things, including marrying a guy about 5 days after her divorce was final to a guy 20 years younger with three mentally handicapped children (with 3 different mommas, crack whores. literally).

Anywho, she is working at the hotel I'm part timing at over the summer as a housekeeper. and her husband came to pick her up. He says, "when are you having that baby?" I said, "What baby?" He said, "well, you've gotten so big I figured you were having a baby."

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Re: I've never been so insulted in my life.

  • Oh, hell no. 
  • Sorry, edited the post title. 
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  • Yeah, I got that two years ago after I put on 40lbs. My uncle saw me at a family get together (this was after my first year in the US, and Brandon insisting I didn't eat enough >.>) and was all "Wow Steph, you've gotten big, are you pregnant?!". 

    Yeah, I replied "Nope, just fat" and cried. He's a really nice guy too, which made it worse imo, because he had to have genuinely thought I was knocked up. Thank God I lost enough of that weight.
  • OMG. 
    I'm sorry whit. What an ass. 
    Did your aunt say anything to him or does she know?
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  • OMG. 
    I got nothing. Other than how did you not punch him in the gut?
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  • She heard. She said, haha, just smack him good. And he said, aw I'm just teasing her. and they walked out.

    I've gained weight, I know I have, but come on. That hurts. And I know the Mirena has a lot to do with it, 30 lbs in 3 months. I've mentioned it here before.

    Time to get back on the diet wagon :(
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  • WTF? People suck. Ugh. Sorry Whit Yell
  • I'm sorry Whit. It sucks. Hugs.

    Usually I get asked by the kids at school and I just tell myself they are little and don't know any better.
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    [QUOTE]I'm sorry Whit. It sucks. Hugs. Usually I get asked by the kids at school and I just tell myself they are little and don't know any better.
    Posted by PetalPockets2012[/QUOTE]

    <div>Yeah, my students have said similar things but like you said, they're kids and I shrug it off. But a grown man? I called my mom in tears and she said not to let it bother me, that he's really so clueless that he doesn't even know that could be hurtful.</div><div>
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    [QUOTE]She heard. She said, <strong>haha, just smack him good. And he said, aw I'm just teasing her. and they walked out.</strong> I've gained weight, I know I have, but come on. That hurts. And I know the Mirena has a lot to do with it, 30 lbs in 3 months. I've mentioned it here before. Time to get back on the diet wagon :(
    Posted by whitsy[/QUOTE]
    Ugh. <div>People are terrible.</div>
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  • I can almost handle the question, because we get it constantly (when are you having a baby), but to preface it with, "you've gotten so big". thanks.
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    [QUOTE]My aunt had a serious mid-life crisis last summer, to the point that we were scared she was having some mental issues. Long story short, she did tons of crazy things, including marrying a guy about 5 days after her divorce was final to a guy 20 years younger with three mentally handicapped children (with 3 different mommas, crack whores. literally). Anywho, she is working at the hotel I'm part timing at over the summer as a housekeeper. and her husband came to pick her up. He says, "when are you having that baby?" I said, "What baby?" He said, "well, you've gotten so big I figured you were having a baby."
    Posted by whitsy[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>Some people have no tact, but it sounds to me as if her H has a poor sense of judgement anyway. </div><div>
    </div><div>Don't let it ruin your day, love. :)

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  • edited July 2012
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    [QUOTE]In Response to I've never been so insulted in my life. : Some people have no tact, but it sounds to me as if her H has a poor sense of judgement anyway.  Don't let it ruin your day, love. :)
    Posted by JessAndTrav[/QUOTE]

    <div>He doesn't, and I hate to sound judgey, but I am, so I'll expect to be flamed next week haha. but he really doesn't.</div><div>
    </div><div>My mom said, "he just doesn't have a lick of sense." <3 southern phrases.</div>
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  • Oh my god... When will people learn not to ask a women if she's pregnant if she isn't actually wearing a 'baby on board' t-shirt?

    People are a**holes. I've never been asked if I was pregnant, but I have been asked weather I was 'actually' a girl. Some people have no tact.
  • (HUGS).

    The same thing happened to me NINE MONTHS AFTER Chiquita was born.  I was shopping with DH for a dress and while in line, a saleswoman from the store patted my belly and asked how far along I was.    I was seething!
  • People should never ask a woman if she is pregnant.  Ever.

    Sorry, whit.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: I've never been so insulted in my life. : He doesn't, and I hate to sound judgey, but I am, so I'll expect to be flamed next week haha. but he really doesn't. My mom said, "he just doesn't have a lick of sense." <3 southern phrases.
    Posted by whitsy[/QUOTE]
    Sorry your feelings are hurt.  Try not to let it get to you since you know the source. You know, seeing as how he fell off yesterday's turnip truck.
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  • Once, when working at a grocery store, I had a customer lean across the counter to poke me in the stomach ask me about the weight I gained. It's a miracle I didn't punch him. 

    Moral of that story: People are assholes. Don't let it get to you. I don't know when people will learn that you never ever ever say that to a woman unless she either tells you she is pregnant or she is in labor. 
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  • That is terrible, but the guy does sound slow.  Someone asked me if I was pregnant on the fourth, and I said, "no, just chubby."  She tried to shrug it off by saying someone had told her I'm pregnant.  Maybe since we are having a quick TWENTY TWO MONTH engagement?!  I have a rule that I never, ever ask a woman if she is pregnant or when she is due unless I've heard from a credible source or she is literally about to give birth in front of my face. 
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    [QUOTE]Oh my god... When will people learn not to ask a women if she's pregnant if she isn't actually wearing a 'baby on board' t-shirt? People are a**holes. I've never been asked if I was pregnant,<strong> but I have been asked weather I was 'actually' a girl</strong>. Some people have no tact.
    Posted by Gabrielle76[/QUOTE]


    Wha???
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: I've never been so insulted in my life. : Sorry your feelings are hurt.  Try not to let it get to you since you know the source. <strong>You know, seeing as how he fell off yesterday's turnip truck.</strong>
    Posted by Mrs.B6302007[/QUOTE]

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  • FIgured you would like that =-)
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: I've never been so insulted in my life. : Wha???
    Posted by Mrs.B6302007[/QUOTE]

    Yup, it's happened on more than one occasion.  I'm 6' 4", and for some reason some people assume that means I'm probably a transvestite, and that it's appropriate to ask me. 
  • Oh my. 
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  • People are so rude.  I gained nearly 50 lbs when my thyroid broke.  I have gotten the question more than once and I really think it never gets better.  People really need to mind there own business and learn not to comment.  What is worse is my family makes constant comments to me about it and its been two years of it.  
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    Oh wow, I am so sorry! Some people are terrible & have absolutely no filiter. 

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  • That's terrible, sweetie. Apparently that man is one sandwich short of a picnic basket. You want me to put a Gris-Gris on him?
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    [QUOTE]Dude, this is why you never ask a woman that, unless the baby is crowning. I had it happen to me several months ago, and it absolutely sucks. Then the lady said <strong>"well, I wouldn't have asked, but it's just that your stomach has gotten particularly big</strong>. Yep, that made it AAALLLLLL better. People suck, hardcore.
    Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

    <div>That is soooo awful.</div>
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    [QUOTE]That's terrible, sweetie. Apparently that man is one sandwich short of a picnic basket. <strong>You want me to put a Gris-Gris on him?</strong>
    Posted by Lizzieyounce[/QUOTE]

    <div>hahahaha. love it. yes please.</div>
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: I've never been so insulted in my life. : hahahaha. love it. yes please.
    Posted by whitsy[/QUOTE]



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