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FML

You know those days where everything going wrong? I'm having one of those days. (years?) I have to make a decision on my job today (be laid off or become everybody's admin bitch so my boss's friend can take over my work...if i am said admin bitch, i have to move up to the front office in the desk beside hubby's stubborn, difficult mother and work directly with her.) I have been dealing with the dentist drama i mentioned before. (Dentist wants to charge me $1800 for a bite guard, which is WAAAAAY over-priced by about $1200 and said they won't warranty their work unless i buy the guard from them.) School starts tonight for a very demanding semester. FSIL is being a terror. Their wedding is in March and she keeps telling me what she expects me to do and telling her mom and sister--who both weigh 115, MUCH less than i weigh--in front of me that they both need to lose weight before the wedding. Not so veiled hint for me, I guess. And BIL and FSIL bought a new house a week ago and won't stop rubbing it in even though they know how badly we want a house. It's all they talk about. And they are the type of people who are so irresponsible and selfish, but good things always happen to them. And she is a bridezilla.

So today? At 4am that brand new $800 veneer I just had to buy shattered. So I've been up since 4am on the day I was already dreading because of my job decision and school.

And poor hubby. It's his birthday. I woke him up at 4am and I won't even be home til after 9:30 tonight.

I've turned into such a negative, miserable person these past few days. I hate who I am right now and I can't snap out of it.

You don't have to respond. I just wanted to vent.

Re: FML

  • ::hugs::

    I have no  idea what to say so I'll just say that I'm really sorry things are so awful right now.  I hope they get better for you soon.

    And happy birfday to Mr. Smile!

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  • Aww Sarah!  That's horrible.  I'm so sorry things aren't going well for you right now.
  • Shitty days like that really suck. Truly. I'm sorry this is all piling up on you at once. And I'll second Moose's birthday wishes to Mr. Smile.
  • Oh Sarah :(  That completely sucks, and I'm sorry your year is starting out so badly.  I know the feeling of turning into a miserable, negative person.  Have you tried talking to some other dentists in the area and seeing what they can do for you?  I had a dentist offer to do some stuff for free for me, just for switching to her.  Maybe someone else can be more accomodating.  I hope things get better for you soon, lovely!
  • Sorry for all the stress, Sarah.  Hugs!
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  • Hugs from be also.

    I had one of those days on Friday.   It will get better, I promise.






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  • By the way, I get the turning into a negative, angry person.  I don't know when or how it happened to me, but I want my old self back.  It took a long time but I stopped blaming everything around me (my divorce, work, etc) and started focusing on how I could find that side of me again.  A lot of it IS out of my control, but finding ways to change the things within my control has helped a lot.

    My MIL is surprisingly helpful in this.  She's a big proponent of being happy and she's had her own struggle from bitter and angry to completely zen. 

    I'm currently struggling with not falling prey to the expectations of others.  It's freeing in some ways, but you piss a lot of people off along the way!

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  • Oh, Sarah, I'm so sorry. That's a way too much crap to deal with.  

    I haven't been following your dentist saga -- is this a mouth guard for sleeping?  My dentist tried to get me to get one of those expensive ones as well and told me the drugstore kind never work. I end up getting the $40 drugstore kind and it's worked well for months for me.  Sorry, if that's not your issue and that's totally extraneous advice.

    Happy Birthday to Mr. Sarah and I hope your day gets better. 
  • :::hugs::: sorry Sarah, that does sound like a sucky day :( 
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  • Sarah girl, sorry about all that suck.  Hope things start to improve... and soon. :)


  • I'm scared of my dentist.  She was so mean the last time I saw her that I haven't been back :(  I need to find a new one asap.  Anyway, you're beautiful, lady!  That sounds like a lot of crap to navigate, but you've always seemed like a very level headed and well-thought-out person, so I am sure those traits will apply in making all these decisions.  Big hugs!
  • Aw, Sarah, that stinks.  How badly do you need the job?  If they lay you off, do you get good severance?  Any prospects for other jobs?

    And, I'd get a new dentist, what with the tooth and the bite guard. 

    Hang in there.  Have some wine with Mr. Smile tonight for his birthday, and it will be ok.
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fml-10?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:b3f57e81-a032-432a-be12-2ce3c8c7995aPost:aa4f2aa7-022d-42c3-83d3-7ea84a081c34">Re: FML</a>:
    [QUOTE]Oh, Sarah, I'm so sorry. That's a way too much crap to deal with.   I haven't been following your dentist saga -- is this a mouth guard for sleeping?  My dentist tried to get me to get one of those expensive ones as well and told me the drugstore kind never work. I end up getting the $40 drugstore kind and it's worked well for months for me.  Sorry, if that's not your issue and that's totally extraneous advice. Happy Birthday to Mr. Sarah and I hope your day gets better. 
    Posted by julezlee[/QUOTE]

    The problem is that I have 8 veneers that i got 2 yrs ago (i had very bad dental fluorosis--you know, when people have white stripes on their teeth) and now the dentist is saying he will not warranty them unless i come back to him for cleanings (even though i go to one of the top dentists in town currently) and unless i buy this extremely marked up bite guard from him. He charged me $800 for him to replace the veneer that broke in Dec after only 2 years. It really, really sucks. I hate their office. They are extremely rude. So I think I am just going to waive goodbye to any warranty and chance it at my other awesome dentist office. They are only quoting me $590 for the same custom bite guard. I will definitely get a custom one to help protect them because of the huge expense if even 1 more breaks. I obviously need one, considering I bit down so hard last night on a 2.5 week old veneer that it shattered into 4 pieces. A drugstore one would definitely be better than nothing, but if I am walking away from his warranty I will invest in the custom guard.

    Just posting this made me feel better. Thanks for reading and caring. I've decided to stay as admin bitch for now while I begin searching for internships/other jobs. I sat down and tried to think about the positive side of this. If I am in an admin position, I'll have a very flexible schedule and fewer hours. No major projects to babysit like I have now. I'll have a very demanding school schedule this semester, so flexibility is good. And I didn't do anything wrong, so I'm not getting a pay cut. I'll be an overpaid office bitch. haha. Also, I remembered that I work Mon/Wed/Fri and Steve's mom works Mon/Tues/Thurs. So I'll only be working with her on Mon and the occasional Fri.

    I'm usually good at feeling in control of my life, so it was freaking me out this morning that nothing felt like it was in my control. That was what made it so bad. But I just needed to think about it in a way where I have the reins again and am not letting other people control my life.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_fml-10?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:b3f57e81-a032-432a-be12-2ce3c8c7995aPost:3646f14a-07d4-4b89-9ee5-8978faa9a3c4">Re: FML</a>:
    [QUOTE]Aw, Sarah, that stinks.  How badly do you need the job?  If they lay you off, do you get good severance?  Any prospects for other jobs? And, I'd get a new dentist, what with the tooth and the bite guard.  Hang in there.  Have some wine with Mr. Smile tonight for his birthday, and it will be ok.
    Posted by squirrly[/QUOTE]

    I don't need the job. Steve makes enough money in both of his jobs to support us and put money in savings. I've always worked, though, and I can't stand the though of living off his money and not bringing in my own! lol. I know, i'm weird about it.

    No severence and no unemployment if I leave because I was given the option of a new position and would be choosing to decline it. I feel like Lynette on Desperate Housewives. ;)

    And I do have a new dentist, but the problem is that I have 8 veneers that he will not warranty unless I come back to him. :(

    It's just a cluster of annoying crap. I had a great year in 2009, so I guess I was due to have the shiiit hit the fan. At least everybody I love is healthy and I have a roof over my head and creature comforts. Right?

    I'm trying to make lemonade here...and to forget that I now have dental work AND an obgyn appointment tomorrow. hahaha.
  • Sending hugs your way, Sarah.
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  • Put some vodka in with that lemonade and you're golden! :)
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