ok....had the venue booked over a year away from the date...amd now five and a bit months out. Now...I find out thorugh the grapevine (thank god I found out now) that our venue has not passed fire code regulations and that the fire marshalls cn show up and shut us down at anytime if we have our reception there!!
I've been on the phone in tears for two days trying to find out if there is even so much as a city park shelter open on our date (which is set in stone due to work commitments, OOT relatives flying in from the UK etc.)
The only option I've found is the in-laws backyard which we would have to slash the guest list...unfortunatly I had told my work people and some acquaintances that they will be invited....cause they were! and now I have no place to have a wedding. The guest list would be slashed from 150 to 50 max, family and WP only if we have to use the backyard. I am hoping that people will understand. I'm freaking since this is out of my hands, I CAN'T host that many people anymore this is a horrible situation...there is literally NOWHERE I can book
Would you understand this as a guest if a coworker or accquaintance explained the situation???
I can't move the date like I said...we considered having it next year instead despite the OOT guests who would have to cancel travel plans, but my grandma (who is 96) has informed me that she intends that she only wishes to live to see me get married and that just set me off in tears again....omg im so upset...I just want to marry my FI and now its all a big ol' mess...all i want to do now is afternoon burgers and beer and cake...what I wanted in the first place. Its like karma for not listening to my gut instinct and going along with FI and family on the three ring circus, but its still such a mess...