If you were a wedding planner...

ring_pop

Obviously you'd be working with bridezillas/groomzillas every now and then, and you'd probably even meet some couples that you figured were doomed from the start.

Would you ever consider it your place to (gently) counsel such a couple? Or would you milk them for all it was worth?

Just curious!

angiebear11

I voted "milk it". I don't believe it's anyone's place to counsel anyone unless the person/couple asks to be counseled.

ohwhynot

If I were an officiant, it may be a different story.  But as a wedding planner?  I'd push for monogrammed matchbooks if it got me extra commission!

AmoroAgain

Well, I don't know that you would get very far with any counseling.  I'd probably leave it unless I thought it was abusive.

pumpkinpumpkin

I wouldn't do either. If it made me really uncomfortable to continue helping them plan a wedding that I believed shouldn't happen, I would remove myself from the situation. I would never as a paid vendor give my $0.02 on their relationship.

georgia_bride09

I'm with pp's. As a wedding planner, your job is to plan a wedding, period.

ring_pop

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[QUOTE]I wouldn't do either. If it made me really uncomfortable to continue helping them plan a wedding that I believed shouldn't happen, I would remove myself from the situation. I would never as a paid vendor give my $0.02 on their relationship.
Posted by pumpkinpumpkin[/QUOTE]
Yeah, I'm with you p2. I don't think I'd be a very successful wedding planner.

mandapanda78

It's the right of two consenting adults to enter into a doomed marriage if they choose to do so. Unless they ask for help or unless it's abusive, I would just shut up and help them pick their linens.

aMrsin09

I voted milk it.  That would be their "punishment" for being a bride/groomzilla.

The counseling part? I would stay out of it.

ac_in_dc

Yeah, that sounds like the job of the officiant (unless there's some kind of abuse involved, like Amoro said).

It's hard for me to imagine being a wedding planner, though...I had a difficult enough time planning my own wedding.

banana468

I think I might ask questions involving the planning in a "Are we all on the same page?" sort of way if they seemed to really have issues.

Unless they were having knock-down drag-out fights, I don't know that I'd recommend anything else though.

bbyckes

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[QUOTE] I would never as a paid vendor give my $0.02 on their relationship.
Posted by pumpkinpumpkin[/QUOTE]

This.  It's not my place.

SarahPLiz

A wedding planner is not a marriage planner. If they want a wedding, they can have whatever they want as long as they can pay for it. If they want a marriage, then that's a different vendor..

JanoBean75

If I were a planner, it's my job to sell them on various things, not get them counseling. I'm just there to plan a pretty party.

ootmother2

It's  just a job.  Do a good job and STFU about your opinions on the match

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Most entrepreneurs will do a lot that goes against their conscience for a buck. Which is why I can't run my own business.

Catwoman708

I don't know how to answer.  I'd hate to put a lot of time and effort into planning a wedding just to have it called off at the last minute. 

I don't think I'd counsel them exactly, just sit them down and make sure they are still going forward, and if they don't have their issues worked out, that a postponement is an option.  Then I'd make sure they pay up front or "pay as you go".

And if I were a wedding planner, I'd a have a "no bridezilla clause", a "tacky - over ride clause" and "mandatory mediation" if there were glarig faux pas or disputes between who is paying and who is getting married.  I probably wouldn't be a very popular wedding planner, lol!