Not quite sure how to handle this...

jsarver14

So, FI and I invited his aunt and uncle to our wedding. This aunt is notorious for being kind of dramatic. Although FI doesn't care much for her we invited her to avoid said drama. Fast forward to tonight when we receive her RSVP(5 days post due date).....for SEVEN people. These people include her adult daughter, adult daughter's children, and one of adult daughter's children's SO. I'm so flabbergasted I don't even know what to do. Suggestions? Advice? Seriously...I have no clue how to handle this.

[Deleted User]

Your FI picks up the phone, calls her, and says, "Hi! I'm sorry for the confusion but the invitation was only meant for you and UncleFirstName. We hope you can make it!" If she threatens to not show up, call her bluff, tell her she will be missed and move on.

baird32

I agree with JordanF13. I would have done the same thing but thank God nobody had the nerve to do that. My sister and fiances friend wrote an outrageous number just as a joke because they knew I was dreading possibly having to make one of those phone calls.

Loopyseven

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_not-quite-sure-how-to-handle-this?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:b58077b2-f93f-4490-a8c9-49763325ff29Post:f4bdba1d-0434-45dd-a9c8-6bbafe81a00e">Re: Not quite sure how to handle this...</a>:
[QUOTE]Your FI picks up the phone, calls her, and says, "Hi! I'm sorry for the confusion but the invitation was only meant for you and UncleFirstName. We hope you can make it!" If she threatens to not show up, call her bluff, tell her she will be missed and move on.
Posted by JordanF13[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>This exactly.  Good luck!

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azdancer8

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_not-quite-sure-how-to-handle-this?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:b58077b2-f93f-4490-a8c9-49763325ff29Post:f4bdba1d-0434-45dd-a9c8-6bbafe81a00e">Re: Not quite sure how to handle this...</a>:
[QUOTE]Your FI picks up the phone, calls her, and says, "Hi! I'm sorry for the confusion but the invitation was only meant for you and UncleFirstName. We hope you can make it!" If she threatens to not show up, call her bluff, tell her she will be missed and move on.
Posted by JordanF13[/QUOTE]

<div>This.</div><div>
</div><div>I feel for you, though. I had someone do the same thing to me...turn a 2 person invite into 7. :P</div>

TheWeddingBunny

I had a person change their husband to a +1 that we were not ok with.  We let the person know that their alternate +1 was not going to be ok (FI's ex).  She said that she would not be attending if the person was not welcome.  We told her that we would change her RSVP to "no" and that we would miss her.

LDubHawksFan

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_not-quite-sure-how-to-handle-this?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:b58077b2-f93f-4490-a8c9-49763325ff29Post:f4bdba1d-0434-45dd-a9c8-6bbafe81a00e">Re: Not quite sure how to handle this...</a>:
[QUOTE]Your FI picks up the phone, calls her, and says, "Hi! I'm sorry for the confusion but the invitation was only meant for you and UncleFirstName. We hope you can make it!" If she threatens to not show up, call her bluff, tell her she will be missed and move on.
Posted by JordanF13[/QUOTE]

Exactly this.  And although the call won't be <em>easier</em>, but at least if she tries to call your bluff on not coming, you guys don't really care about having them there anyway!  Win Win!

Peledreamsofrain

Just tell her the truth.  The invitation was for two people because you can't accomodate more.  End of story, sorry if you can't make it, you'll be missed.

APDSS22

I keep seeing this same problem everywhere...it's giving me some interesting nightmares.