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More baby/bride confusion

One of my friends, K, is pregnant and due in late May.  She was supposed to be a BM in her friend's wedding in July.  When K called the friend (I don't know her) to tell her that she was pregnant, the friend FREAKED out.  She didn't congratulate her, and instead accused K of all the usuals: thunder stealing, overshadowing HER day, etc., because she would be having a baby two months before.

The friend told K that she AND her husband (who was going to be a GM) both were out of the WP, but could still come as guests.

I'm flabbergasted by this girl because it's not an adults only wedding, so she can't be mad that K would bring her baby uninvited.  K won't be pregnant at the time, so the friend couldn't be mad about having a "fat" bridesmaid. 

If she goes as a guest, I hope K doesn't dress the baby in white :)

Re: More baby/bride confusion

  • Wow! People are so ridiculous!
    I hope theres lots of new little babies at my wedding.
  • Definitely ridiculous.  It just doesn't fit the mold of the typical 'zilla behavior, so I guess this girl must really be crazy.
  • There is no way I would be attending that wedding if the bride acted like that.
  • She should go to the wedding and then stand up in the middle of the ceremony and renew her vows to her husband.
  • Haha cew!  I have no idea if she'll go or not.  The girl and her FI were both in K's wedding, and K has known the girl since elementary school.  Super weird.
  • WOW, some bridezilla, huh?? If I was this girl I would just not go to the wedding and not care at all. I still can't believe this. Crazyness!
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    [QUOTE]There is no way I would be attending that wedding if the bride acted like that.
    Posted by navybaby1113[/QUOTE]

    I might still attend, but I'd definitely cut waaaay back on the gift!
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  • I wouldn't attend, regardless of how long I had known her or if she was in my WP.  They would get a nice greeting card, and nothing else.  Craziness and rudeness should not be rewarded.
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  • I vote that she gives her an ettiquette book for a wedding gift.
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  • I wish I could say I'd go, give a card saying what a twat the bride is given her zilla ish behavior, give no actual gift, and cease speaking to the bride.  But. . . I probably couldn't be that mean.  I'd likely send my regrets with a note saying I just didn't feel comfortable attending given her apparent distain for my choice to start a family.
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    [QUOTE]I vote that she gives her an ettiquette book for a wedding gift.
    Posted by lpstl[/QUOTE]

    ditto - she should send it with her card in which she would write she will not attend.
  • wow...there should be a rule book that is required to be sold with the engagement ring...

    P.243

    don't be a biotch

    p.278

    you can't fire a bridesmaid

    p. 321

    you get a day, not a week, month, or year
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    [QUOTE]wow...there should be a rule book that is required to be sold with the engagement ring... P.243 don't be a biotch <strong>p</strong>.<strong>278 you can't fire a bridesmaid</strong> p. 321 you get a day, not a week, month, or year
    Posted by mrsamyjones[/QUOTE]

    Under different circumstances, I fired a bridesmaid/MOH, it was at the beginning stages of planning and wasn't sure if one was going to be MOH so the girl I asked was one could have been the other. Depending... however, we had a huge falling out, obviously she's no longer anything in my wedding nor will she be invited... 
     
    I now have a MOH and two Bridesmaid, for sure, and praying everything works out in the end, I'm not asking anything of them other then them getting their dresses, in a color I choose, but whatever style they prefer, and of course show up.
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