Do I Invite her?

kandiflavored

My old friend who had a falling out with me has invited me to her wedding. Her wedding date is set for late 2011 and I have mine set either March 2011 or March 2012.

My ceremony is going to be rather small and then a little bit larger reception. She said the reason she wants me at her wedding is because she wants everyone that influenced her life to be there. Do I have to invite her?

What do I do?

Calypso1977

if you want her invite her, if you dont, dont.
invites are not reciprocal in nature.

opalsky007

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[QUOTE]My old friend who had a falling out with me has invited me to her wedding. Her wedding date is set for late 2011 and I have mine set either March 2011 or March 2012. My ceremony is going to be rather small and then a little bit larger reception. She said the reason she wants me at her wedding is because she wants everyone that influenced her life to be there. Do I have to invite her? What do I do?
Posted by kandiflavored[/QUOTE]

Weddings are not tit-for-tat: you don't have to invite her just because you're invited to hers. I would wait and see where your relationship stands when it's time to send out save-the-dates or invitations. If you're not close by then, don't invite her.

Mrs.B6302007

It's up to you.  Getting an invite does not equal giving one.

MattsPenguin

No requirement for invite reciprocity.

If you would still like to invite her to your larger reception, because you want her there, then by all means invite her.  But don't do it out of guilt or obligation.

Sloane99

You've got a ways to go here and it's entirely possible that she may not end up inviting you to hers anyways by that time. I know there was a lot of people that we changed around as the date got closer based on who was in our lives.

If you didn't have a falling out would you have invited her?

jnic0319

Yeah she wants a gift...

I had the same thing happen to me with a friend I had a falling out with in college.  I RSVP'd no, didn't send the gift like I knew she wanted and didn't invite her to mine.

Weddings are not tit for tat you don't have to invite her at all.

kandiflavored

She invited me over facebook. She is collecting addresses for STD cards. So I'm pretty sure that she will be sending out an STD card to me.  And thanks for the answers, I'll probably wait until I get a little closer to my wedding date and see how close we get (if at all). I'm sitting at 80% sure of not inviting her. Thanks gals!