Registry

TiffanyGruber

Thanks for the help ladies!

bmoruzzi

I would find that really odd if I were one of your guests.  I'd stick to places like BB&B or Macys.  

Avion22

You are right, it's supposed to be stuff for the two of you to use together.   If there are activities that you both like to do together, then I think it's okay to register for stuff that will help you do those activities (like some people register for camping equipment or scuba gear) -- I will add a caveat that it's also nice to register for more traditional items, but you don't have to.   

But if you don't like hunting, then I don't think it's appropriate to register for hunting equipment.  And?  As a guest I'd be a little weirded out if he registered for guns and stuff (I know there's more to hunting than just guns, but still....)

redheadfsu

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[QUOTE]My fiance is a big hunter, but I do not hunt at all (except for the one or two times a year I join him). He wants to register at a store where he can get items for his hunting trips. I told him that I thought this was inappropriate as people are giving us gifts that will help US start OUR life together, but maybe I'm just being selfish? What's the etiquette on registering for hunting items?
Posted by TiffanyGruber[/QUOTE]

In my opinion, it is odd. And honestly, I would judge a hunting registry.

But, are you putting things on there that only you will use? If so, then  I could understand him wanting stuff only he will use on there too.

DramaGeek

If we're talking about a tent for you two to use together, and he'll also use alone when he goes hunting, I don't see a problem.  if we're talking ammo for his gun or new hunting boots, then yes, I think that's inappropriate.

specialk84

We registered for things that would benefit us both. H didn't register for any computer stuff, and I didn't register for any craft items. Everything we picked was something we could use together.

I think it's weird when a registry looks like someone tossed together two birthday lists. They aren't presents for each of you--they're presents for both of you.

StephBeanWed61502

I agree with DramaGeek - I feel like it's okay to register for camping gear like a tent, coolers, grilling gear, sleeping bags (which may have uses other than hunting and will be used by both of you) but not for guns/ammo/orange vests/etc.

MyUserName1

I would think it a little weird.

I actually think he's the one being a bit selfish.

KatieK501

Hunting is HUGE here, but I've never seen someone put hunting items on their registry. 

However, people who know your FI well, like his close friends, may get him hunting stuff anyway.  My FI builds furniture and runs a woodworking/metalworking shop for the university here.  When his students get married, he usually gives them something like a cordless drill, even though it's not on their list.

aragx6

As others have said, I don't mind non-traditional registry items per se, but they should be for you together as a couple.

StephBeanWed61502

OP, why would you delete your post?  That's considered a very rude thing to do on these boards - leaving your question up helps other brides who may have the same question in the future. 

aragx6

For serious?

MattsPenguin

We were agreeing with you that we thought registering for hunting gear that would only benefit your fiance was odd.  Plus you were quoted. 

MyUserName1

Oy, with the DD.  OP, don't do that!  your question could help someone else in the same situation.

Also, you were quoted, so your post is still on the interwebs forever.

specialk84

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[QUOTE]I let FI register for some power tools because I felt like they benefit me when he fixes/builds stuff with them.
Posted by MeganLindsay5685[/QUOTE]

<div>Power tools are fine. I put them in the same category as kitchen tools, like a food processor. My H may not know how to use the food processor, but it makes him dinner.</div>

MyUserName1

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Registry : Power tools are fine. I put them in the same category as kitchen tools, like a food processor. My H may not know how to use the food processor, but it makes him dinner.
Posted by specialk84[/QUOTE]

I let FI register for the food processor.

I may not know how to use the food processer, but it makes ME dinner :D

Habs2Hart

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Registry : Power tools are fine. I put them in the same category as kitchen tools, like a food processor. My H may not know how to use the food processor, but it makes him dinner.
Posted by specialk84[/QUOTE]

I mean, you could make the same argument for hunting though.  H went hunting and it stocked our freezer with fresh organic meat for 6 months. 

specialk84

That was stupid.

mollyehren

I'm cool with hunting gear on a registry. I would much rather buy that than some of the stuff that people put on a registry that sits in a corner and build dust. Example: fondue maker, like really who uses that on a regular basis?

redheadfsu

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[QUOTE]I'm cool with hunting gear on a registry. I would much rather buy that than some of the stuff that people put on a registry that sits in a corner and build dust. Example: fondue maker, like really who uses that on a regular basis?
Posted by mollyehren[/QUOTE]

I love fondue... we use it at least monthly. It is the perfect way to keep cheese dips (or other dips/sauces) hot during parties/football games/etc.

MattsPenguin

You have inspired me to get out my fondue pot again.  I have a great recipe for chocolate peanut butter fondue.  Now I just need to have a party.

MyUserName1

oooh, ooh, invite me MP!  I'll bring the cheese.  In my fondue pot.

redheadfsu

Me too! Because that sounds delicious

MattsPenguin

Party at my house! 

Correction: FONDUE party at my house!   So saucy!

whitsy

Hmm. This is interesting because Shane didn't even ask to register for hunting equipment, and he's a huge hunter. Our meat will last us several months, that's how much he hunts.

But I still say no. Hunting items are usually really expensive, and I wouldn't have wanted to ask our guests for those items. But I guess that's more of a knowing your crowd kinda thing.