destination wedding and showers

dieselsmomma

Hi ya! So I get to be a bridesmaid for the first time and I'm excited. I never really paid attention to destination wedding questions when I was researching for my wedding so now I have to catch up on this info!

Bridal Shower Question: friend is having a destination wedding and a reception back at home afterwards. Who is invited to the shower? JUST the destination wedding OR guests who will be invited to the reception? They are small town folk so a LOT more people will be invited to the reception. By small town the town describes their trading population area around 5,000 people.

Obviously not everyone invited to the reception would be invited to the shower, but because they are small town people I imagine it will have a larger guest list than what I've seen before.

Thanks for your help!

carrieoz_76

@ banana - I think it's pretty common for guests invited to the AHR but not the wedding to be invited to the shower.  I've seen it generally accepted elsewhere (i.e. not P&E) if the wedding is a legitimate DW and really small.

That being said, I thought about doing this for about a half-second, but then started thinking about how aunty so-and-so would feel if she talked to a good friend and learned that my friend was invited to the wedding but aunty was only invited to the AHR.  It seemed to me that this would just serve to be awkward at best, and hurtful at worst.  So I decided to only put ppl on the shower guest list who are also invited to the wedding.

cmuntener

Hi there,

I know this is a little late of a reply, and considered starting a new post, but am new to the site and not sure how it works.

I to am having a desintation wedding in France, with only immediate family invited, and then will have a party at home a few weeks afterwards with all of our friends here to celebrate with.

My MH has asked me for a guest list for the bridal shower, and while i've looked at this website for help on this, most say its not ok to invite people who do not attend the ceremony, but if I do that, then I will litterally only have three people who can attend my bridal shower.. even though i have tons of friends here who will be coming to the cocktail party after my wedding in France.

Should I tell my MH to not bother with a bridal shower? or would it be ok to invite people who are invited to the AHR only. I'm not after gifts at all, but just don't want offend anyone!