If this is true then the bride is disgusting

banana468 · September 2010

http://www.recordonline.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20100906/NEWS/9060333

[Deleted User] · September 2010

that is terrible, just terrible

Mrs.B6302007 · September 2010

awful

she better watch out for karma

[Deleted User] · September 2010

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[QUOTE]awful she better watch out for karma
Posted by Mrs.B6302007[/QUOTE]

definitely believe what that! It will come back to bite her in her in the butt someday whether she knows it or not

FutureMrsDudley55 · September 2010

I can't see it at work. What's going on?

banana468 · September 2010

It's a news article about a couple who had their wedding paid for by donations of well wishers and friends because the bride had leukemia.

Except that as the story goes, her husband later found out that she NEVER had leukemia.

kayakrunhike · September 2010

We visited DH's parents yesterday and I read this article in their newspaper. It made me so angry to think she took advantage of so many people. I actually got my dress from the store that donated hers, and they are the most wonderful group of people.

Mrs.Dudley, a bride faked having terminal leukemia, and the local paper did a write up on here in the spring. People donated for her dress, their HM, flowers, everything, so that she could still walk down the aisle while she had the strength. They got married, and the H started to have misgivings about her being sick at all (and they had a daughter together). She was going to go with the journalist to a blood test to check her white blood cell count, but couldn't show up the day of bc she was 'served her divorce papers'. She got caught lying a bunch of times. She's a horrible person, to sum it up.

baystateapple · September 2010

That is unspeakable.

FutureMrsDudley55 · September 2010

Oh my.. that is terrible. What a horrible person.

kayakrunhike · September 2010

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[QUOTE]It's a news article about a couple who had their wedding paid for by donations of well wishers and friends because the bride had leukemia. Except that as the story goes, her husband later found out that she NEVER had leukemia.
Posted by banana468[/QUOTE]

I did wonder about that, as well.

Article:

Michael O'Connell preferred to pretend there was only today and to forget that his wife's cancer would probably kill her in less than a year. That's the way he used to think. "I had to prepare for her to die," O'Connell said. Now O'Connell says his wife, Jessica Vega, had pretended — saying she had terminal leukemia in order to scam him, everyone they knew and a long list of strangers who heard her story and wanted to help. O'Connell and Vega were featured April 26 in a Times Herald-Record story about the many people who had come together to organize a dream wedding while the bride was still strong enough to walk down the aisle. The story prompted dozens of others to help the 23-year-olds and their baby daughter in the week leading up to their May 2 wedding. Strangers had donated everything from Vega's dress to wedding photos. For the couple's honeymoon, they flew on donated plane tickets to Aruba, where they stayed in a donated time share and spent donated money.O'Connell said recently that it was all based on a lie. Vega's health hadn't gotten any worse, and he believed she never had a terminal illness.O'Connell insisted a letter from Dr. Dan Costin that described her diagnosis was a fake.When I was reporting the April 26 story, Vega showed me the letter to verify her diagnosis. Now O'Connell had invited me to listen in when he called Costin's Westchester office and asked about Vega's medical records: "Never a patient here" was the response. He hadn't wanted to look at Costin's letter before. And Vega had said in April that she kept it hidden to make life easier for him. O'Connell said he now wished he'd checked out the letter sooner. In his mother's house in Walden, he switched on the speakerphone and dialed Costin's number. A receptionist transferred O'Connell to an administrator who sounded exasperated to hear from him again.
"I can tell you for sure this person was never a patient here," the woman said, adding that they didn't want to keep receiving his calls. O'Connell hung up and pumped his fist. "Yes! I did it!" he said. O'Connell has said he's glad to think Vega will live, but he is candidly bitter about being duped. He hit redial on the phone so I could hear the greeting on Costin's automated calling system. I copied down the phone number and checked it against the one I had for Costin. The numbers matched. Vega had been hard to reach. I called her for several days before overhearing the conversation with Costin's administrator. She hadn't responded to messages left on her cell phone, her father's phone or in her e-mail. Her mother, Diana Vega, did answer a later call. "Jessie would never do something so manipulative," Diana Vega said and agreed to pass on a message to her daughter.
<h2 style="padding-right:0px;padding-left:0px;padding-bottom:0px;text-transform:none;padding-top:5px;" class="brkTitle">Vega calls husband abusive</h2>Jessica Vega called the next day and said she had not lied about her diagnosis or the letter, although she now doubted their accuracy. She said she had a new doctor in the Bronx and was getting better away from O'Connell by eating fresh food, exercising and drinking nothing but water and tea.She promised to let me tag along on her next doctor's visit when she was due to have a white-blood-cell count taken. Vega was unhealthy living with O'Connell and left because he was physically abusive, she said. "I don't think he really wants to go down that route of me exposing him," she said. O'Connell had previously said he'd bitten Vega on the elbow once when they were living in Yonkers. He said he was trying to escape her headlock at the time, but it still led to his arrest and a temporary restraining order against him. He said he also slapped her during a fight at their Montgomery apartment before they separated. He claimed Vega had torn up his car and punched him in the face that day because he was kicking her out. "I slapped the fire out of her," O'Connell said. "Enough is enough."
<h2 style="padding-right:0px;padding-left:0px;padding-bottom:0px;text-transform:none;padding-top:5px;" class="brkTitle">No trip to the doctor</h2>After the conversation with Costin's administrator, I called Vega, told her what I'd heard and asked her again if the letter was real.
"I really did receive it," she said; it came in the mail.I reminded her that she told me in April that Costin had typed the note in front of her and handed it to her. Vega paused."I guess I did not do that," she said. Asked to clarify, she paused again, then said he did type it in front of her, but he also sent it in the mail.She said we could still go see her doctor in the Bronx. I agreed to go, but said I also wanted to see Costin.She agreed and promised to send a text message with the Bronx doctor's address as soon as she hung up. The text message didn't come after she hung up, and it didn't come the day after or the day after that.On the day we were to visit the Bronx doctor, she sent a text message saying she'd just received her divorce papers and had to cancel the blood test."I have to meet up wit my lawyer instead hope u understand that settlin my divorce is more important and time consuming than this article," she wrote.The only other messages she sent in the week that followed were about preventing an article and "legal consequences." There were no more plans for doctor's visits. O'Connell said he would fight for full custody of their daughter in the divorce. He's now consumed with preparing for a future he had tried not to think about for so long: life as a single parent.

rbtrumpet · September 2010

I feel so bad for the guy - what a nutjob to get mixed up with! I hope he gets full custody!

And I hope she gets help!

There actually is some disease where people believe they have diseases (more than just being a hypochondriac) - I knew a girl who believed she had cancer, she would shave her head and then tell people she didn't have hair because of the Chemo (which she was not getting), and would dissappear for days and tell people she was in the hospital (which she wasn't) - we didn't find out she was lying to us until one of our friends insisted on going to her doctor appointment with her for moral support.

After it was all exposed, I think she ended up in a mental hospital.

baystateapple · September 2010

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[QUOTE]I feel so bad for the guy - what a nutjob to get mixed up with! I hope he gets full custody! And I hope she gets help! There actually is some disease where people believe they have diseases (more than just being a hypochondriac) - I knew a girl who believed she had cancer, she would shave her head and then tell people she didn't have hair because of the Chemo (which she was not getting), and would dissappear for days and tell people she was in the hospital (which she wasn't) - we didn't find out she was lying to us until one of our friends insisted on going to her doctor appointment with her for moral support. After it was all exposed, I think she ended up in a mental hospital.
Posted by rbtrumpet[/QUOTE]

That's really scary. At least she (hopefully) got the help that she truly needed. I forget what that's called, but I've heard of that disorder before.

SassyBrass · September 2010

That's awful. How can someone make up such a terrible thing and take advantage of so many people, who want to make your wedding happen- perfect strangers even!
There are couples who actually have this problem, who really have to go through this pain, and she's making it up to get some perks for free? That's just sick.

I think karma is a heck of a thing and this will not go unnoticed. Good for you lady, you got your perfect day and a great honeymoon on other people's dimes. Looks like your marriage is really going well.
This is awful.

FutureMrsTR · September 2010

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[QUOTE]I feel so bad for the guy - what a nutjob to get mixed up with! I hope he gets full custody! And I hope she gets help! There actually is some disease where people believe they have diseases (more than just being a hypochondriac) - I knew a girl who believed she had cancer, she would shave her head and then tell people she didn't have hair because of the Chemo (which she was not getting), and would dissappear for days and tell people she was in the hospital (which she wasn't) - we didn't find out she was lying to us until one of our friends insisted on going to her doctor appointment with her for moral support. After it was all exposed, I think she ended up in a mental hospital.
Posted by rbtrumpet[/QUOTE]

It's called Munchausen syndrome. People can also have Munchausen By Proxy where they make someone else sick to get attention and sympathy as the caregiver.

deburnin · September 2010

Usually just a lurker here (I post in NEY), but what caught my attention was the fact that the Dr's office released that information. Not that I agree with what the bride did at all and I suppose she wouldn't have signed a HIPAA form if she hadn't been there, but it still doesn't seem right on the Dr office's part.

Beachy730 · September 2010

That's just disgusting. I hope they find a way to make her pay back everything she got for free.

AmoroAgain · September 2010

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[QUOTE]Usually just a lurker here (I post in NEY), but what caught my attention was the fact that the Dr's office released that information. Not that I agree with what the bride did at all and I suppose she wouldn't have signed a HIPAA form if she hadn't been there, but it still doesn't seem right on the Dr office's part.
Posted by deburnin[/QUOTE]
A Dr's office is allowed to give info on someone actually being a patient there. Just a yes so and so was a patient, but they can't offer up any diagnosis or treatment info.

marisah83 · September 2010

That's awful. Did she really think she would get away with it?

I agree deburnin, even if she wasn't a patient there, the doctor's office isn't supposed to tell him that. They are supposed to say something along the lines of, "We can neither confirm nor deny that person is a patient here." That is what I have to do if someone calls about one of my therapy clients.

NuggetBrain · September 2010

She sucks and is a horrible person, but am I reading right where her husband says he "slapped the fire" out of her? I'm sorry, but they both sound like pretty craptastic people. I feel bad for their kid.

baystateapple · September 2010

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[QUOTE]She sucks and is a horrible person, but am I reading right where her husband says he "slapped the fire" out of her? I'm sorry, but they both sound like pretty craptastic people. I feel bad for their kid.
Posted by NuggetBrain[/QUOTE]

Yeah, I was thinking that too. I don't care if she hit him, that makes her wrong, definitely, but he should not have stooped to her level.

mrspat7 · September 2010

A woman in our town pulled this. She had 6 children and didn't work. They moved to town telling everyone that tragedy had befallen them and needed help. The whole town came to bat for them, getting them a house clothes, furniture etc. Then some people found out that it was a lie, there was no tragedy. So people quit helping them. Then she said she had cancer, people started helping them again. Found out she didn't have cancer, then she got cancer again, got some help, found out no cancer. People got fed up with it, they felt bad for her kids but were tired of being lied to. Then she told people she had cancer a third time, no one believed her. She really did have it this time. Only a handful of people were willing to help her out at this point. She recently passed away from her cancer.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · September 2010

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[QUOTE]She sucks and is a horrible person, but am I reading right where her husband says he "slapped the fire" out of her? I'm sorry, but they both sound like pretty craptastic people. I feel bad for their kid.
Posted by NuggetBrain[/QUOTE]

Yeah, I loved the part about how he bit her on the elbow once.

beatlesgirl25 · September 2010

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[QUOTE]That's awful. Did she really think she would get away with it? I agree deburnin, even if she wasn't a patient there, the doctor's office isn't supposed to tell him that. They are supposed to say something along the lines of, "We can neither confirm nor deny that person is a patient here." That is what I have to do if someone calls about one of my therapy clients.
Posted by marisah83[/QUOTE]

Same here, though perhaps HIPAA doesn't extend to medical practice? I thought it did in the U. S. I had this argument with a poster once who was a doctor in Canada, and she said it was perfectly fine that she revealed that someone in the news was a patient at her hospital. It still didn't sit right with me though.

ETA: Oh, and that bride is terrible. It makes me sick when people do stuff like that.

mkrupar · September 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: If this is true then the bride is disgusting : Same here, though perhaps HIPAA doesn't extend to medical practice? I thought it did in the U. S. I had this argument with a poster once who was a doctor in Canada, and she said it was perfectly fine that she revealed that someone in the news was a patient at her hospital. It still didn't sit right with me though. ETA: Oh, and that bride is terrible. It makes me sick when people do stuff like that.
Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]

I'm no expert, I just know what I have seen, but I've signed HIPAA forms before where I was able to designate certain people that they could release my medical information to. (Usually my father). I don't know how it works when the person is not actually a patient though.

She's a terrible person, and I hope he does get custody of their kid, and she gets some help. He should have hit her though. Like PP said, he shouldn't have stooped to that level.

beatlesgirl25 · September 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: If this is true then the bride is disgusting : I'm no expert, I just know what I have seen, but I've signed HIPAA forms before where I was able to designate certain people that they could release my medical information to. (Usually my father). I don't know how it works when the person is not actually a patient though. She's a terrible person, and I hope he does get custody of their kid, and she gets some help. He should have hit her though. Like PP said, he shouldn't have stooped to that level.
Posted by mkrupar[/QUOTE]

It's called a release form. But I doubt that, had this woman been a patient there, that she would have signed a release stating that any old random person who called the practice could be told whether she was a patient there or not. Again, she wasn't a patient there, so her case doesn't apply and they had no ethical obligation to her at that practice. But in general, I don't know anyone who signs a release stating that it's okay for the receptionist to reveal their patient status to anyone but family and friends.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · September 2010

Well, technically, they are releasing medical information to her husband. Not even medical information, as she wasn't a patient.

swttrish2004 · September 2010

I just saw the husband on Nancy Grace last night..

This woman makes me sick. I cannot believe someone would fake something as serious as cancer to score free stuff..
I hope she faces criminal charges and some jail time as well as restribution.

Mrs.B6302007 · September 2010

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[QUOTE]A woman in our town pulled this. She had 6 children and didn't work. They moved to town telling everyone that tragedy had befallen them and needed help. The whole town came to bat for them, getting them a house clothes, furniture etc. Then some people found out that it was a lie, there was no tragedy. So people quit helping them. Then she said she had cancer, people started helping them again. Found out she didn't have cancer, then she got cancer again, got some help, found out no cancer. People got fed up with it, they felt bad for her kids but were tired of being lied to. Then she told people she had cancer a third time, no one believed her. She really did have it this time. Only a handful of people were willing to help her out at this point. She recently passed away from her cancer.
Posted by mrspat7[/QUOTE]

Wow. A real-life Boy Who Cried Wolf

If this is true then the bride is disgusting

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