Who contacts the non responders?

chattychiqa

Overthinking moment of the day, number 846,358...

If it's from MIL's guest list, does she follow up?  i.e. someone we don't really know, her distant aunt, etc... or is it us (meaning me) because we are the ones hosting, paying, collecting RSVP's.

ootmother2

correctly, it;s the person(s) issuing the invitation.

practically, the person who  knows the invited person best

Kate61487

I had mom and MIL help contact people.  I think it's definitely okay to ask; if she resists then I guess it's back on you, but hopefully she'll be willing to help :-)

chattychiqa

I know she's happy to follow up (as is my dad, who invited his aunts and uncles, and a cousin of his).  I just don't want to be side eyed... at the same time, despite being an outgoing person, I'm not too keen on *ring ring* Hi this is Chatty, you know my dad from xxx... I sent you an invitation to my wedding, are you coming?" 

eh.

KWIM?

Happy Friday!

willywally5

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[QUOTE]I know she's happy to follow up (as is my dad, who invited his aunts and uncles, and a cousin of his).  I just don't want to be side eyed... at the same time, <strong>despite being an outgoing person, I'm not too keen on *ring ring* Hi this is Chatty, you know my dad from xxx... I sent you an invitation to my wedding, are you coming?"  eh. KWIM? </strong>Happy Friday!
Posted by chattychiqa[/QUOTE]

<div>Totally don't blame you there. I'd think it is perfectly OK for parents to help. I would and am pretty sure I will here in a few weeks!</div>

annmarie714

I just made a list of people for FMIL to call and inquire about.  I gave her a deadline to have it done by becasue if I don't...it'll be the day before the wedding & she'll start calling them.  I have a list for my side of the family that I will start calling.

random4180

My plan is to have my FILs call any from their invite list who don't RSVP with us- mostly because I don't have any other contact info besides addresses. Not to mention, there's a ton of people I've never even met who are on our invite list and it just seems so incredibly awkward to cold call your guest list.

Kristin789

Just like any dinner party, the person(s) issuing the invitation (whoever's names are on the top line) follows up on non-responders.