My fiance and I would like a very small intimate wedding. There are several reasons. Most importantly my fiancee has a stutter, and feels extremely uncomfortable saying his vow in front of a large group. Exchanging those words is most important to me, that is what the day is for. It also seems silly to me that after years of us being together, there are people on the list that our significant other would be meeting for the first time. I don't feel that is appropriate for my wedding,and an intimate affair would better suit us. I also feel that as the list grows longer our stress and anxiety are also going to increase. For these reasons we wanted to invite just our immediate family, godparents and grandparents.
However, my parents who are paying the bill want to invite the whole family, including cousins. They have left me with an all or none decision (believe me I have tried everything to compromise). Now it stands that We have to invite everyone or no one. These are my options as I see them.
- Cave in to a large ceremony and reception. This make the ceremony a meaningless show in my eyes, since we would not be exchanging vows. I hate to be the center of attention, and would be a ball of stress. I really do not even have any motivation to plan such an event and do not care about throwing a party.
- Have just our immediate family (11 people) at a court house wedding and have a large party to follow. I am not even sure how to approach this situation and the ediqutte of having such a party. In addition, to being overwhelmed by the number. I am a little disappointed with having a courthouse wedding but what to do with only 11 people. However, I am willing to give up anything to have the vows.
- Have a court house wedding with immediate family without a party. I like this idea, but I am afraid my family will be sorely disappointed. I think having a party just complicates things.
I never thought I would be so unexcited for my wedding. Any suggestions?