Help me respond to this

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My cousin asked if she was invited to our wedding on Facebook, and she's not. I feel really bad because she asked in a pretty nice way. Basically asked "Is it going to be big or small? We'd love to be there. I know my sisters was really small and couldn't invite a lot of people." She totally gave me an out but help me word this!

That side of the family isn't invited because we don't really have a relationship - I haven't seen them in 10 years and they're kind of estranged from some family members. Plus they're pretty trashy and my mom doesn't want them there because of said trashiness and estrangement.

Help?

Nebb

Did she write this on your wall? I wouldnt respond to be quite honest.

shellydiane820

I'd just say you're keeping it intimate.

apple_green

My status was "just realized we're getting married in exactly five months!" She said congrats and asked where it was, I told her, then she asked about being invited.

katieanne85

I would private message her saying its going to be intimate, and you cant invite everyone you would like to, and then maybe suggest you visit/call to catch up once all the wedding crazyness calms down?

opalsky007

I would respond in a message, first off. No need to embarrass her on either of your walls.

Second, just let her know that you are keeping it small. Like you said, you've already got an out here. If you see each other sometimes, just let her know that you're looking forward to the next time you see her, but that it won't be at the wedding because you've got a small guest list and future in-laws to consider.

jasmineh7777

"We're keeping it really small. I'd love to catch up with you sometime afterwards though!"

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Thanks all! This is helpful...

mwhitson14

(Check your status)

ggmae

Are you actually keeping it small? How many people are you inviting?

apple_green

Oh whit you're awesome! gg - it actually will be fairly small. Maybe 65-75 people.

ggmae

Oh okay, good! If you had said 100+, I would have said that it wasn't the best idea to tell her that you were keeping it small if you actually weren't.

SonaliPop

Keep it small and tell her that it is going to be that way...and also, note that she is maybe extending an olive branch. It's never too late to get closer to family, even if your past wasn't always picture perfect.