I FB friend people too easily.

mwhitson14

I have my boss's husband as a FB friend, I honestly didn't think a thing about it when I added him. I never have crazy statuses about getting drunk or anything inappropriate, so I added him. 

Well today I had a status about wanting to stay in bed and not go to work, and apparently my boss saw it, and she told me it makes me seem ungrateful for my job and really irritated her. I feel like that's a bit overreacting, but I should have thought before I typed.

I hate to defriend the husband, because he very often comments on my status, or photos, whatever, so he would notice if he suddenly wasn't able to do that. Any advice, other than to be more careful about what I say?

crfische

Block him from status posting. Easy.

Or, with the new privacy lock, think about who's going to see your status and block certain statuses from people.

RachNRich

I agree with Fishy...block them from seeing your status'.

I went through FB and did a cleanse the other day---I must have weeded out about 300plus people I had added over the years....some I didn't even know. It felt good to rid my FB of random people.

But, I accidentally cleared my FB of Sucrets. At which point, I had to re-add her---and explain that I was stupid.

sucrets4

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[QUOTE]I agree with Fishy...block them from seeing your status'. I went through FB and did a cleanse the other day---I must have weeded out about 300plus people I had added over the years....some I didn't even know. It felt good to rid my FB of random people. But, I accidentally cleared my FB of Sucrets. At which point, I had to re-add her---and explain that I was stupid.
Posted by RachNRich[/QUOTE]

YOU DON'T LOVE ME ANYMORE!!!!!!!!!!

beatlesgirl25

Or, with the new privacy lock, think about who's going to see your status and block certain statuses from people.

Ooh, finally a new FB feature that is helpful and not a PITA. I think you should be more careful about posting, use this feature, and remain friended with your boss' spouse. If your boss took your comment that personally, then I think it would be perceived as even more of a negative "statement" to defriend her spouse. Don't rock the boat. Sorry this happened though, hope it doesn't make it awkward at work.

SarahPLiz

I think you should block what he can see as well. He will just think you havent posted any status updates in forever. I doubt he will go to your page and see if you had any activity.

I have lots of work friends on FB, but they are all added to a list that is prohibited from seeing anything unless I expressly permit it.

mwhitson14

I forget I can do this! Headed that way now.

Beatles, I do worry it would reflect negatively, because although they would never say anything, I feel like it would bother them and make them wonder what I was saying that I didn't want them to see.

RachNRich

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I FB friend people too easily. : YOU DON'T LOVE ME ANYMORE!!!!!!!!!!
Posted by sucrets4[/QUOTE]

I <em>knew</em> this was going to happen....

WE WERE ON A BREAK!

beatlesgirl25

Exactly whit. It would be so silly too, because you aren't doing anything you'd want to hide from them! It would be nice if your boss took your word that you didn't mean you hated her or the job over some FB comment. And surely she can't blame you for saying you'd rather sleep in than go to work... haven't we all said that at least once in our lives? Good luck!

terbear_86

apologize to your boss if she says something, tell her you feel like you are coming down with something and just unmotivated blah. You like your job, just enjoyed holiday break.


And ditto Fishe.

mwhitson14

beatles, that's exactly what I said! I told her that it didn't mean  I was unhappy with my job (and I'm not!) I would just rather stay in bed with FI on this really cold day and watch movies!

ter, I did apologize, I still feel awful.

So I changed the privacy settings, and it still looks like he can see my current status, but not past ones.

mwhitson14

It also made it so he can't send me a message or write on my wall, which I didn't want. Argh. Guess I will just be more careful.

playtntsbpg30

play around with the settings you can set it up where he can't see status's and can't see comments,but there is a way you can have for him to see and write on your wall. It took me awhile to figure it out and I had my sister walking me through it. I'm still getting use to FB as I was always on MYspace.. 

Play it smooth for awhile and maybe defriend him after a week or two so it's not so fresh. Or if the private settings work out then that should be ok to.

good luck.
I hate having to think about things before I post them. So The one person that kept bad mouthing everything I put on  my status, I ended up setting that she can't see them. It's worked out very well so far.

mwhitson14

Thanks, I'll keep playing with it.

danieliza1127

Personally I think if you don't want people to see your statuses, why are you even friends with them?  If it were me, I would just unfriend him and if it's ever questioned I would just say that I've decided to keep my personal life separate from work.  I used that line when a co-worker repeatedly sent me FB friend requests.  He totally understood and was cool about it when I told him no.

You shouldn't have to worry about everything you put on FB getting back to your boss if you don't want it to. 

betrothed123

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[QUOTE]Personally I think if you don't want people to see your statuses, why are you even friends with them?  If it were me, I would just unfriend him and if it's ever questioned I would just say that I've decided to keep my personal life separate from work.  I used that line when a co-worker repeatedly sent me FB friend requests.  He totally understood and was cool about it when I told him no. You shouldn't have to worry about everything you put on FB getting back to your boss if you don't want it to. 
Posted by danieliza1127[/QUOTE]
Ditto this.