Interesting MSNBC Entertainment Article

missy68

And I'm guessing the "one message board" may have been here, based on the responses.
http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/42692484/ns/today-weddings/

mkrupar

I like the last story about the couple that got married in a cave, in November, in OH. Oh and their friends and family made the breakfast pastries and beverages for the event.

FutureMrsTR

This is my favorite quote:

"It also gives guests a chance to play hooky from work for a day.”

For people who don't get paid time off or don't have a lot of vacation time, you're not exactly doing them a favor so don't act like you are.  It's like the "I just want to give parents a child free evening!" excuse.  C'mon.

Mrs.B6302007

Ha!  But they're comparing apples and oranges so it seems to me.  For us peasants, yeah a weekday wedding is inconvenient because we have to, you know, work.  When it's royalty and the guest list is a bunch of rich folks and celebrities, somehow I don't think missing a day of work will bother them as much.  ;-)

hlq2011

Jamie, it's there - comment 10.

hlq2011

TR - I hate that "gives guests a chance to" argument.  I hate it when it's applied to kid-free weddings too.

If a guest wants to play hooky, I'm sure they'd rather take a day off from work and spend it on themselves, rather than going to a wedding.

missy68

Huh. Seems like something that would've been supported. Oh - you said weddingbee.

Yeah, all of my vacation time right now and my sick time is getting sucked up together. I may or may not be able to make my cousin's wedding in July.

mica178

If I had mostly local family and friends, a weekday wedding could have worked.  But since H's family is on the other coast and most of our friends live in different parts of the state and/or country, we really didn't have much of an option to have a weekday wedding.  Sadly, we don't live lives of leisure, so we (and most of the people we know) work during the week.

GeauxTigers17

The bride saying she got married on a Thursday night so she "didn't have to compromise" on her fairy-tale wedding baffles me as well - I guess I don't understand why it's more important to have the "stuff" than to have the people you want there, to be there.

hlq2011

Mica, we looked at it the same way.  More than half our guest list is traveling; a weekday would probably have meant most of them couldn't come.

Some are taking extra time off anyway, and likely would still have made the trip.  But it was more important to me to accommodate all the people I wanted to come.

DeadUtopia

I chose a Saturday evening because it is more convenient for most people, even though about 90% of our guest list is local. While I admit to being on a budget and finding it a little more expensive to throw a traditional Saturday wedding, I was surprised at how many brides on the budget boards suggested an off-day wedding just to save money, without considering how inconvenient it may be for guests. And you'll very often hear on those boards the "gives guests a chance to get off work" excuse, which as other pp's stated, isn't necessarily a good thing when you have to work for a living and vacation time isn't available.

Birdie1483

Is it just me, or did the article end kind of weird on the GPS sentence? Hmm..

Birdie1483

Also, I understand when brides like DNB have to plan a wedding in a short amount of time and pick Friday. But, since I had all of the time in the world I personally chose a more cost-effective location on a Saturday. I had to wait 15 months for it though. I probably could have had it sooner if I chose a Friday.

leia1979

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[QUOTE]The bride saying she got married on a Thursday night so she "didn't have to compromise" on her fairy-tale wedding baffles me as well - I guess I don't understand why it's more important to have the "stuff" than to have the people you want there, to be there.
Posted by GeauxTigers17[/QUOTE]

This. And they still spent like $30k (because I hear that Nestldown is crazy expensive).

Personally, I'm okay if someone wants a weekday wedding as long as they don't complain when they get a 60% decline rate. I guess it's no different than the Saturday DW I had to take time off for (spent a whole day travelling each way).

GeauxTigers17

Oh I agree - I think weekday weddings are fine if you're OK with the decline rate. Friday weddings are actually pretty normal here because most Catholic churches won't do a full mass on Saturday evening - only at 10am, sometimes 2, and south Louisiana is heavily Catholic. Strangely enough, afternoon weddings just aren't done here. I guess we booze too much, but come to think of it, I've never been to a wedding that started before 5pm!

 I was just blown away by her "forget my guests' schedules, I want my day to be the way I envisioned it no matter who can't be there" attitude. And maybe she's just coming off poorly in the article - who knows, she may have made sure the key folks were OK with it, but the quote sure does make for a poor "sound bite."

NuggetBrain

My wedding was on a Friday and we had a very high response rate.  That being said, we made sure to start the ceremony at 5 and sent out STDs and invites a month early to make sure people knew and could figure out their schedules.  Also, almost everybody was local (those flying in would have come in on Thursday anyways), and most people were on a normal 9-5 schedule.  If a lot of people were OOT, or a lot of them worked wierd hours (ie a lot of cops or servers or "non-traditional" jobs) we probably wouldn't have done it.

number55

I chose a Saturday night because if we were going to spend what we did on open bar people were damn well going to be able to drink as much as they possible could. 

Karen's MOH

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[QUOTE]TR - I hate that "gives guests a chance to" argument.  I hate it when it's applied to kid-free weddings too. If a guest wants to play hooky, I'm sure they'd rather take a day off from work and spend it on themselves, rather than going to a wedding.
Posted by hlq2011[/QUOTE]

This. I also hate the "If people care enough they will make it work to be there". Yes, this is true, I would make sure to be at my sister's wedding in Timbuktu on a Weds morning, if that's what she did. BUT, I would sure rather it be local and on a Saturday!

ETA-- I actually just read the article. Um, yeah, a ROYAL wedding has a lot of different considerations than any of ours. I would not mind taking a day off to go to THAT wedding. I highly doubt they did it to save money, too.