Invitation Issues

lenasilva00

My FI and I are planning a very small brunch wedding next May.  I sent out "Save the Date" to family and very few friends that will be invited (30).  Now we heard from MOG that FI's brother and wife that are invited are assuming that their grown sons and significant others are also invited.  We don't have a relationship with them at all.  I don't even know them.  We only invited the real close family members and few friends.  Do we have to invite them? I feel that we start going there, we will end up with 50 guest, way bigger wedding than we planned on...

Maggie0829

Well, they can assume all they like but they don't control the guest list, you and your H do.  If you don't want to invite them then don't, simple as that.

Jen4948

No, you don't have to invite them.

lenasilva00

Thanks!  That makes me feel a bit better!  If it was a larger event, maybe then...

Thanks again.  Like we don't have more to worry about..  

Daizy106

A lot of people get worried about who to invite- people need to realize that its YOUR wedding (your as in bride and groom). You invite the people that you are close with and talk to and have a relationship with on a daily basis. And like StateManager said when and if the brother and SIL rsvp, let your FI handle it and explain this is a small event, the invite was only for you two. SOme people even go as far as filling out the RSVP # already, but it might come off as tacky.