Prom dress at my wedding...

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sweet_pea_flower04

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[QUOTE]I think I got my prom dress about two weeks before my prom.... Has she SERIOUSLY already purchased something? You can technically get away with not giving +1's to children (which a 15 yr old is) but it might get some side eyes from your FILs.  See what your ILs think about inviting the kid.  And if she's 15, cut the kid some slack.  Everyone is annoying at that age. Also, someone should tell this chick not to wear the white poofy gown.  That someone can't be you.  If her mom and friends don't tell her, then you guests will be like "Oh, some child wore a big white gown to a wedding.  Poor kid looks like a moron." Then, they move on and enjoy your wedding.
Posted by katelynbrian[/QUOTE]
The girl is 17, I should cut her more slack.I guess my ML could say something to her.

sweet_pea_flower04

Knot friends I guess! lol.

DramaGeek

First of all, your wedding is still 5 months away.  Chances of them breaking up long before that are good.

Secondly, as Katelyn said, someone should inform this girl that she shouldn't wear white to your wedding, esp. a big white poofy dress that could be mistaken for a wedding dress, but that someone shouldn't be you.  Her mother, her boyfriend, or even your FMIL if they're close, but not you.

That said, if she does wear it I doubt anyone is going to mistake a 15 year old guest sitting in a pew wearing white for you, the bride, whom they presumably have met at some point.

Trust me, there are worse things that can happen.  Be thankful that this is the biggest problem you have, wedding wise.

Simply Fated

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[QUOTE]If she really hates you, maybe she's saying all of this just to piss you off.
Posted by megk8oz[/QUOTE]
Good theory. Especially since it is really early to be buying prom dresses.
I don't even think Macy's has their new prom dresses out, yet.

kikibaby

My friend's niece wore a prom dress to her wedding.  It looked a little silly/out of place but it far from ruined the wedding.

DramaGeek

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Prom dress at my wedding... : Good theory. Especially since it is really early to be buying prom dresses. I don't even think Macy's has their new prom dresses out, yet.
Posted by Simply Fated[/QUOTE]

Maybe she's like me and wearing the same prom dress two years in a row.  Hey, it was to two different schools, no one but me knew!

LDYGTR13

Sweet pea - let her look like an idiot. Maybe you can even take a picture together like twins. Maybe she will catch the bouquet and help you cut your cake - or maybe your fi will look like a pimp with 2 brides

LDYGTR13

Duds, this surely can't be MUD! It's just far too plausible. I'm sending it to the mythbusters.

Birdie1483

I think someone got bored and decided to bust out their old AE.

But if this is real, relax. Everyone will know they aren't there to see a child bride. She might even decide to wear another dress to the wedding and change before the prom. If she doesn't, well she'll just be uncomfortable dealing with cheap tulle substituting as crinoline for the entire day and you'll be having fun getting married and all.

kellyjellybelly

Birdie - will you go to prom with me?  We can get drunk on Boone's and make out?  

autumnbreeze26

Kelly, if Birdie turns you down, I'll take you up on that. I love me some Boones! You don't know me but I promise I don't bite. (unless you asked me to.......)

LDY, your comments have me cracking up!

As for the OP, I'm of the thought that at 15, he doesn't need to bring his gf. When I think of a social unit, I think of grown ups in serious relationships. If it were me, and I truly hated a 17 y/o girl for whatever reason, I wouldn't invite her. I don't feel you're obligated to. However, if you DO invite her, a previous suggestion of having someone tell her that it's not appropriate to wear a white, poofy, princess gown to a wedding. From the timeline you laid out, it seems like she'll have plenty of time to change into her dress and head out to prom.

DramaGeek

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[QUOTE]God, please don't let this be MUD. I really want to see pictures of this. And the jello wrestling previously mentioned. I'd also like a pony. Thanks, LDY. OP - maybe YOU should go to HER prom in a big white dress too. Steal your thunder right back.
Posted by LDYGTR13[/QUOTE]

Be careful what you wish for LDY.  You just might get it :-P

sweet_pea_flower04

Once this day unfolds:If they are still dating, and she keeps the dress on, I will post a pic! Thank you all for your advice!

sweet_pea_flower04

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[QUOTE]Duds, this surely can't be MUD! It's just far too plausible. I'm sending it to the mythbusters.
Posted by LDYGTR13[/QUOTE]
I love Myth Busters I wonder if Jamie and the other guy could use a dummy and a dress to prove/disprove this myth! LOL!

LDYGTR13

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Prom dress at my wedding... : Be careful what you wish for LDY.  You just might get it :-P
Posted by DramaGeek[/QUOTE]


Pony!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Birdie1483

Totally kelly. Then we can hop into the back of your car and have your dad wonder why there is glitter all over the backseat the next morning.

Oh wait, I was just flashing back to my own prom. Nevermind.

kellyjellybelly

So my mom let me sleepover at my friend's house after senior prom.  With our dates.  Now, my date was a good friend and he was gay, but still.  Maybe she was just preparing me for college

courtney1188

I really think this could be true, not MUD, because at my high school prom a shocking amount of girls wore white poofy dresses that definitely looked like they could be a bride.

And personally I think a 17yr old should realize that it's really not polite to wear a white poofy dress to a wedding. Well, unless you are the bride. Could FI's brother talk to her about this? Or another family member? I know that recently I had to tell a friend that no, it really would not be a good idea for her to borrow a white dress of mine to a relative's wedding. But I'm sure it went over better coming from me than the bride.

cherbein

I find the idea of wearing a white dress to a wedding to be extremely tacky...  That said, there's really nothing you can do about it and stressing will not make it any better.  My FMIL is planning to wear an almost white dress to my wedding that she is making herself.  It is also completely covered with flat sequins that kind of reflect rainbows in the light.  Am I happy about this?  Of course not?  But is it a battle worth fighting? Not really!

Everyone there will know who the bride is and they'll just think anyone else who wears white is tacky and rude.  Don't let it ruin your day or stress you out.  It is best to pick our battles, and this one isn't really worth fighting.

LDYGTR13

KJB - I like the way you think - I just wish I knew where some old prom pics were!

MrsTucker2011

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[QUOTE]To be honest I dont like the girl! I really feel like she does not like me! My FI's brother is 15, he does not need to bring a date. I have not sent out the invites, so I think I just wont invite her to avoid this situation! It is my wedding and I think after reading these comments the girl can have her prom and I can have my wedding, but the two do not go together!
Posted by sweet_pea_flower04[/QUOTE]

I'm not giving my 15 yr old bro a date. I don't see a need for it. Just avoid the whole issue by not giving him a +1. Unless he's engaged... <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" />

futurepivko

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Prom dress at my wedding... : We went from.... She's wearing a poofy prom dress to she's wearing a white poofy prom dress to we dont' like each other. If you alter your story one more time to make it more dramatic to win us over, I'm going to call BS. Are we understood? Ok, look. If he is dating her during your wedding, you should invite her. Social units should not be split up. Not many girls would choose some chicks wedding over their own prom, so she might not. She's not so bright if she is wearing a white dress to a wedding AND a prom. <strong>She's pretty much destined to get her period that night.</strong> Siriusly. Invite her, and if she shows up wearing a mini wedding dress, she'll look silly and you're day won't be ruined. :)
Posted by Simply Fated[/QUOTE]


LOL

brookelynpaisley

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[QUOTE]I actually think it would make her uncomfortable more than it would make you. Would you want to show up WAY overdressed to a wedding of someone you barely know (if you know them at all) and obviously look like you're going to the prom? She's going to stick out like a sore thumb...no skin off of your nose...she's the one who's gonna look like an idiot.
Posted by LDYGTR13[/QUOTE]

I agree with this. Also, if this is what you're getting worked up about, Sweet 8pound Baby Jesus help you should anything actually go wrong on your wedding day.

LoveMuffins

I've WORN a prom dress that looked like a wedding dress... so they do exist. Trust me!

I can understand being a little upset, but as PPs have said, there's plenty of time for you to relax about it and realize what an idiot she's going to look like if she DOES show up in that (people are going to judge her, not you). Also plenty of time for the two of them to break up, as was pointed out.

I don't think you have to invite her, but I think it's a nice gesture do so since otherwise she's not going to get to have dinner with her prom date. It's a good way to show her how classy people behave.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]She's a kid in high school - I seriously doubt that its bridal!
Posted by andy71781[/QUOTE]

You've clearly never seen a quincienera dress. :-P

Anyway, I think this is MUD. No way does a 15 year old have a prom dress 5 months before prom.

courtney1188

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Prom dress at my wedding... : You've clearly never seen a quincienera dress. :-P Anyway, I think this is MUD. No way does a 15 year old have a prom dress 5 months before prom.
Posted by msmerymac[/QUOTE]

Where I grew up it was pretty common for the girls to get their dresses super early. And poofy (sometimes white) princess dresses too. So I don't think that necessarily makes it MUD.