Feel like such a jerk-

katiebo1013

So, a few weeks after getting all my invites out, I see my aunts partner come up as a friend suggestion on facebook and realized I put the wrong last name on their invite! She has the same first name as the lady who used to own our house and we still get a lot of her mail, so I sent it with the name of the previous owner! Then, when I went online to facebook my aunt (my dad is passed and were not super close, I dont have her phone number) I realized I spelled my aunts name wrong! The cherry on top is that  this is one of my aunts who is throwing my shower.... makes me wonder if I misspelled anyone elses name

daveANDkristen

I would try to find out her telephone number and give her a call, but if that is not possible send her a private message on Facebook.  I would just extend my sincere apologies for the errors, there's really nothing else you can do!

whitsy

I'd probably resend the invitation with the correct names/spelling and a little note apologizing.

daveANDkristen

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[QUOTE]I'd probably resend the invitation with the correct names/spelling and a little note apologizing.
Posted by whitsy[/QUOTE]

Oh!  I wasn't sure if you had any invitations left over, but if you do this would be even better - especially because your Aunt may want to keep your invitation as a keepsake and it would be best if her name was spelled right!

HandBanana

Just breath.  I would try to get a hold of her to tell her you feel bad.  I'm sure she isn't offended.

I know I had some misspelled names on IL's side.  I only realized when I received their responses.  I had gotten the names from my MIL and she had spelled them wrong but I still look like a bit of a jerk.

I also spelled my cousin's husband's last name wrong.  For some reason I did a hybrid of her maiden name with his last name?  I don't even know.  She just thought it was funny.

ski2play

Apologize, send a new invite if you like and move on.  It is not the mistake people remember but rather the way you recover from it.  At least that is how I look at it.

krose83013

If you have extras then I would send a new invite and call her just to apologize. Doesn't hurt to make sure she understands the error was not intentional.

jmayinc

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_feel-like-such-a-jerk?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:b85e75c8-c27f-48cb-97dd-135f0288cf50Post:88fa8614-2d53-4e2e-b5c8-2d6974fc0932">Re: Feel like such a jerk-</a>:
[QUOTE]I'd probably resend the invitation with the correct names/spelling and a little note apologizing.
Posted by whitsy[/QUOTE]

Yea if you have any left, this. People do like to have keepsakes, and she would see your sincere apologies about the mixup.

TheSlowskys

I wouldnt bother with sending a new invite. People probably wouldn't save the envelope even if they save the invite.  Just send her a private message and apologize.

There's 2 common spellings of my first name and I get it spelled wrong all the time. It's annoying but I get over it. If someone apologized for the mess up that would be more than enough for me.

willywally5

Honest mistake, Send her a new  invite if you like and either message or when you see her next, apologize. I'm sure she will be gracious about it. 

ILoveToRobot

I don't think it's that big of a deal and I would probably find it kind of strange if I got another invitation to just correct the spelling. I've received invitations with my last name completely wrong. Sure, I side eye it for a second but then I'm like whatever and have a WTF haha moment. Usually, it's like what were these people thinking and then it's over.

Anyway, it's really not that big of a deal and no matter how diligent you are about spelling and such everyone will have errors. I got a couple spellings back that I was SOOO sure I had right and realized were wrong. I don't think they thought it was a big deal.

lauraanne9

It is not all that big of a deal as it was an honest mistake and you got the info from a reliable source, or so you thought.

I am guessing the big deal to her is that she was invited, NOT how you spelled her name on the invite.  At least it SHOULD be.