Ceremony seating help

louisvillebride21

My dad is walking me down the aisle and then going up and performing the ceremony. We don't have any ushers. So what we've got worked out so far:

Groomsman is already up there.
Fi walks his mom in, up to the 'stage' to light the unitiy candle, and back to her seat.
Goes back down the aisle to get my mom and then takes his place.
Bridesmaid comes in
I come in with my dad.

When/how should his dad and step dad be seated? We've seen it where the dad follows behind the mom and groom. But since he has 2 dads, how should we work this?

T1+T2

I feel like I need a chart for who's who...

How about... (having the girlfriend walk up too)
1.g-dad and girlfriend, go sit
2. g-mom and s-dad, walks her up to stage, she lights candle, goes back down and they walk to seat together
3. GM and your mom, walks her up to stage, she lights candle and he walks her to sit, then to stage
4. BM alone
5. you and your dad

orrrrr...
Have your FI walk up both moms at the same time, which would be sweet like PP said. 

louisvillebride21

I like that idea...but the church lady said that its customary for the Brides mom to be seated last, as an honor? I have no idea, I've never paid attention before.

squirrly

Any chance he could escort both moms at once? 

T1+T2

Hmmm... honor schmoner.  I've seen MOB's come in in all sorts of orders - and if you have such a limited number of people, the church lady can stuff it.  Unless of course, she intends to DOOOOOM your marriage because her order isn't followed. 

Besides, I'm having a hard time taking your church lady seriously because all I can picture is Dana Carvey in drag.  HA!

louisvillebride21

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[QUOTE]Any chance he could escort both moms at once? 
Posted by squirrly[/QUOTE]
I'm sure he could, but the church lady said that my mom is supposed to be seated last?

louisvillebride21

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[QUOTE]Hmmm... honor schmoner.  I've seen MOB's come in in all sorts of orders - and if you have such a limited number of people, the church lady can stuff it.  Unless of course, she intends to DOOOOOM your marriage because her order isn't followed.  Besides, I'm having a hard time taking your church lady seriously because all I can picture is Dana Carvey in drag.  HA!
Posted by T1+T2[/QUOTE]
I really freaking hate my church lady. My dad is large and in charge and he will put her in her place if she starts being all dumb at the church. I understand having to follow all the church rules, but you do not get to design my wedding!

T1+T2

But that's the thing - it doesn't sound like a church rule.  It just sounds like an overeager, bossy old bat with too much time on her hands.  Tell your dad to tell her to STFU. 

louisvillebride21

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[QUOTE]But that's the thing - it doesn't sound like a church rule .  It just sounds like an overeager, bossy old bat with too much time on her hands.  Tell your dad to tell her to STFU. 
Posted by T1+T2[/QUOTE]
I think I'm going to have to.

squirrly

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ceremony seating help : I'm sure he could, but the church lady said that my mom is supposed to be seated last?
Posted by louisvillebride21[/QUOTE]

Pretty sure that's tradition and not a rule.  Besides - if you just do it, what's she going to do?  Run down the aisle screaming during the wedding? 

asonanstine

Are your parents still married? If so your dad could walk your mom to the candle and then seat her and then walk back to meet you. Then the bm's could walk and then you and your dad.

Kristin789

Groomsman is already up there.
Fi walks his mom in, up to the 'stage' to light the unitiy candle, and back to her seat. Goes back down the aisle to get my mom and then takes his place.
Bridesmaid comes in
I come in with my dad.

Not quite right.  Try this:

Groomsman AND FI are already up there.  FI should not escort anyone anywhere.  He's the GROOM and he's focused on this most important ceremony of his life.

Then your uncle escorts your aunt to her seat, and walks back UP the aisle. 

Then BioDad escorts Girlfriend to their seats.

Then StepDad escorts BioMom to the candle, then to their seats.

Then your mom goes down the aisle, escorted by your uncle. Your mom and your uncle walk down the aisle, up to the candle, then to their seats.

Once your mom and her escort arrive at their seats, the prelude music will come to an end.  Then your mom will stand, and the organist will begin the wedding processional music - and everyone will stand.  Your mom is seated last, because it's your mom that everyone will watch going down the aisle, get seated, and then lead the standing of the guests for the bridal procession.

Then the bridesmaid comes down the aisle.

Then you and your father come down the aisle.  He will "drop you off" next to FI, then move into his position to do the ceremony.