Like a lot of people here, I was kind of surprised that a number of friends on both our sides didn't show up with a card or gift. Well, it was less thank you notes and we were just thrilled that they were there so no big deal.
One of these friends is getting married in June. She's a friend, but not a bff type. I know that the right thing to do is spend the amount I always spend on a friend of this level of closeness, but there's a little voice in the back of my mind being a spiteful little b. I guess at the end of the day maybe I am a little bitter about spending money on someone for an occasion they wouldn't spend the money on me for. I know that you're never obligated to get someone a gift, but I think at the end of the day I just can't show up empty handed. Would it be super rude of me to just spend $20 on a picture frame or something like that? Or at that point would just making sure it's a really heartfelt card be better?