Thank You card trouble

partycjaz

It's now been 3 moths since our wedding and we're just about to receive the album and all the photos and it's high time to send out the TYs. The problem is there is still a good few people, mostly my HB's friends, that came to our wedding but never gave us a gift.. We have seen most of them since the wedding but 'the cards they forgot to give us at the wedding' are nowhere to be seen..
Is it weird to expect a gift or should we just be grateful they came ??

opalsky007

Be grateful they came.

And you really need to get those thank-you cards out in a hurry. Three months is too long to have waited already.

SaraAndrew2010

You should just be grateful they came.  Get your thank you notes out right away.  3 months is way too long to be waiting.

mica178

Be grateful.  If you want to send TY notes to the people who attended but did not bring gifts, it's up to you.  But definitely send out the TYs to the people who have given you gifts as soon as possible.  Like last week.

DodgersBride

You should be grateful to have gotten gifts. It is weird and often seen as tacky to expect gifts from ppl. I am not too keen on TY etiquette but I believe you should have sent them already.

banana468

You're already reallly really late with your TY notes. 

Instead of worrying about who did or didn't send a gift, you should be worried that you're quite tardy and many guests will find it quite rude that you haven't sent them already.

cengle

yeah, be grateful they came. Those cards they forgot to give you? They're not coming.  Send out thank you notes ASAP to those who gave you gifts. 

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

So do you have an excuse for not sending your TY notes out within 2 months of the wedding?

RMacQueen

Gifts are not mandatory. What kind of a message does this send to people who sent gifts in the first place and don't receive TYs?

Ash2985

Be grateful that they came.  Were you waiting to get all your gifts before you sent your TYs out?  This is the vibe I got from your post. 

Summer2011Bride

I agree you should send out your TY's like ASAP, but I would also like to say at least you are sending them out. I have gone to THREE weddings in the past two years where I NEVER received a TY. And I went to one where I got it a year later. And I went to one where we got a typed, form, very impersonal thank you post card (it just said "Thank you for celebrating our day with us" although we gave a gift--I guess at least we got something) So at least you are doing them. Better late than never

stephasuasu

The typed, pre-printed thank you's are the worst! You can probably crank out your thank you notes in a week. Do 15 per day, and drop them in the mail as you go. I just got a thank you card 11 months after a wedding I went to last year, way too long. Just get them out as soon as possible. And yes, some people decide not to give wedding gifts when they go to a wedding. Some people just roll that way. No biggie.

Ghoti

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_thank-card-trouble?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:ba2d939f-0277-4b86-9017-66089488ac06Post:711b5fec-9f15-46a0-b4e7-70471a559d63">Re: Thank You card trouble</a>:
[QUOTE]So do you have an excuse for not sending your TY notes out within 2 months of the wedding?
Posted by msmerymac[/QUOTE]
I think she's planning on sending photocards?

I always thought you had a year to send them<img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-embarassed.gif" border="0" alt="Embarassed" title="Embarassed" />

banana468

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_thank-card-trouble?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:ba2d939f-0277-4b86-9017-66089488ac06Post:49e21f86-1791-4351-8341-c6b26e328743">Re: Thank You card trouble</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Thank You card trouble : I think she's planning on sending photocards? I always thought you had a year to send them
Posted by Ghoti[/QUOTE]

1) if you send photocards, they need to be prompt.  Using "We waited for our photos" is an incredibly narcissistic excuse.  Is a proper TY note really incomplete without your photograph?  How selfish!

2) TY notes need to be sent before the wedding for gifts received before the wedding and no later than two months post wedding for gifts received AT the wedding.  Waiting beyond that is quite rude.  The 'one year' thing is completely incorrect.

Ash2985

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_thank-card-trouble?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:ba2d939f-0277-4b86-9017-66089488ac06Post:49e21f86-1791-4351-8341-c6b26e328743">Re: Thank You card trouble</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Thank You card trouble :  I always thought you had a year to send them
Posted by Ghoti[/QUOTE]
I think the rule is that your guests have up to a year after the wedding to send gifts, if they want.  But thank you cards should go out much sooner than that.

partycjaz

Thanks for your posts girls. In Ireland we have up to 1 year for the thank you cards so noone is getting offended yet, only received our wedding pictures now so they'll be on the way in a few days. Got over the whole gifts thing and just enjoying being a Mrs now:)