Bridal Shower Scheduling Conflict

bcbrown63

Me and my MOH were careless when scheduling my bridal shower, and scheduled it on Easter Sunday.  We've already sent out the invitations.  To accomodate those with Easter obligations (and since the restaurant will be closed), we have agreed to move it to the following Sunday.

My question is, how do I let the guests know?  I was just planning on typing up a letter to mail to the guests, but I would like to know what you ladies think. 

antibride2013

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[QUOTE]Me and my MOH were careless when scheduling my bridal shower, and scheduled it on Easter Sunday.  We've already sent out the invitations.  To accomodate those with Easter obligations (and since the restaurant will be closed), we have agreed to move it to the following Sunday. My question is, how do I let the guests know?  I was just planning on typing up a letter to mail to the guests, but I would like to know what you ladies think. 
Posted by bcbrown63[/QUOTE]

Uh-Your planning your OWN bridal shower?  That is so wrong in so many ways.  Wow.  Why on earth would you do such a thing?  A shower is supposed to be thrown FOR you, not BY you.

bcbrown63

Oh, I know it's her responsibility, it's just that I was the one that noticed the date problem so I wanted to help her figure out how to solve it. 

SlothGoals

The easiest thing to do would be for your MOH to call the guests and let them know about the date change.

bcbrown63

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[QUOTE]In Response to Bridal Shower Scheduling Conflict : Uh-Your planning your OWN bridal shower?  That is so wrong in so many ways.  Wow.  Why on earth would you do such a thing?  A shower is supposed to be thrown FOR you, not BY you.
Posted by antibride2013[/QUOTE]

Wow, way to jump to conclusions!  I had NO part in planning this except that my MOH asked me what date works for me and who I wanted to invite. 

antibride2013

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[QUOTE]Oh, I know it's her responsibility,<strong> it's just that I was the one that noticed the date problem </strong>so I wanted to help her figure out how to solve it. 
Posted by bcbrown63[/QUOTE]

<strong>Me and my MOH were careless when scheduling my bridal shower, and scheduled it on Easter Sunday.  We've already sent out the invitations.  To accomodate those with Easter obligations (and since the restaurant will be closed), we have agreed to move it to the following Sunday

</strong>That is not what you said in your OP. 

bcbrown63

You're a peach.  We worked TOGETHER to FIGURE OUT THE DATE.  This is not a breach of etiquette.  I did not plan the event.  Why are you the only one that doesn't see this?!

misshart00

In Response to Re:Bridal Shower Scheduling Conflict:[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridal Shower Scheduling Conflict:Oh, I know it's her responsibility, it's just that I was the one that noticed the date problem so I wanted to help her figure out how to solve it.nbsp;Posted by bcbrown63Me and my MOH were careless when scheduling my bridal shower, and scheduled itnbsp;on Easter Sunday.nbsp; We've already sent out the invitations.nbsp; To accomodate those with Easter obligations and since the restaurant will be closed, we have agreed to move it to the following SundayThat is not what you said in your OP.nbsp; Posted by antibride2013[/QUOTE]

I just read the 'we' to mean her MOH kept her up to date of the progress of the shower because she wanted to. I don't think she planned her own shower.

antibride2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Bridal Shower Scheduling Conflict: I just read the 'we' to mean her MOH kept her up to date of the progress of the shower because she wanted to. I don't think she planned her own shower.
Posted by misshart00[/QUOTE]

It sounds like she is planning the shower with the MOH.  WE scheduled the shower, WE'VE mailed out the invitations.....  etc.  That is what it sounds like.

QueerFemme

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridal Shower Scheduling Conflict : Me and my MOH were careless when <strong>scheduling</strong> my bridal shower, and scheduled it on Easter Sunday.  We've already sent out the invitations.  To accomodate those with Easter obligations (and since the restaurant will be closed), we have agreed to move it to the following Sunday

That is not what you said in your OP. 
Posted by antibride2013[/QUOTE]

Antibride...    OP said NOTHING about PLANNING her own shower. She said "Scheduling!".   The bride absolutely can take part in scheduling the shower, since you know... she has to BE there and it has to fit in her SCHEDULE.

Miss Esa

Wow, antibride, you are a real peach this afternoon. 

OP - I would have your MOH call the guests to let them know of the date change, and send a follow up letter or email as a reminder. 

mlg78

Jesus, antibride. The horse is dead. Stop beating it. That being said, your shower isn't until 3/31. Plenty of time to send new, corrected invites. That would be my preference if I were in your or your MOH's shoes.

winelover123

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Bridal Shower Scheduling Conflict : It sounds like she is planning the shower with the MOH.  WE scheduled the shower, WE'VE mailed out the invitations.....  etc.  That is what it sounds like.
Posted by antibride2013[/QUOTE]

I would expect MOH to SCHEDULE the shower at a time that works for the bride. Otherwise there would be no point in having a shower if the bride can't make it. Perhaps they went to the post office together or the bride helped the MOH address invitations. That's not planning - that's being considerate. I did not read anything about the bride planning her shower. OP, how big is your shower? If the MOH is comfortable with it, another option would be to just call everyone.

bcbrown63

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Bridal Shower Scheduling Conflict: I just read the 'we' to mean her MOH kept her up to date of the progress of the shower because she wanted to. I don't think she planned her own shower.
Posted by misshart00[/QUOTE]

Yes, this is correct.  We worked around my schedule because, you know, it's kind of important that I am there.  Chill out, Anti, you are only making yourself look silly.

I only had 10 people on the invite list, so it should be pretty easy for MOH to just call/email the guests.  Thanks for your input, everyone!

banana468

If she can make phone calls to everyone I think that's fine.      

Simply Fated

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Bridal Shower Scheduling Conflict : I only had 10 people on the invite list, so it should be pretty easy for MOH to just call/email the guests.  Thanks for your input, everyone!
Posted by bcbrown63[/QUOTE]
I agree to see if the MOH can make the phone calls. My family is all Jewish and probably wouldn't have given the date a second thought, but if the people on your list celebrates Easter, they're probably scratching their heads, anyway lol.

KLR081013

My cousin sent out invites to her sister's bridal shower with the wrong date on it last year --- she then worked the phones and email to let everyone know the correct date.  Simple, cheap fix.

AJuliaNJ

Calls would be best. This way you can be 100% sure that someone won't miss the message and show up on Easter Sunday.

By the way, I immediately googled the date of Easter this year to ensure my shower isn't being held that day.

bcbrown63

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[QUOTE]Calls would be best. This way you can be 100% sure that someone won't miss the message and show up on Easter Sunday. <strong>By the way, I immediately googled the date of Easter this year to ensure my shower isn't being held that day.
</strong>Posted by AndreaJulia[/QUOTE]

Now I don't feel so bad!  MOH and I aren't religious, so we didn't even think about it.  I only noticed it when I went to my work calendar to input my time off for March!  I can't believe none of the guests noticed though, because we do have a few religious people that were sent invites.