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Who gets invited to the bachelorette party?

What is the proper etiquette for who should be invited to the bachelorette party?  Does everyone age appropriate who is invited to the shower also get an invite to the bachelorette party?  I have some people from graduate school who I am kind of friendly with and plan on inviting to both the wedding and the shower, but did not plan on inviting to the bachelorette party.  My BMs are trying to plan some kind of destination party (nothing big like Vegas, but somewhere outside NJ) and I'd like to keep the guest list to a minimum of those I am closest to.  I've definitely been invited to people's showers and not the bachelorette party, and I've been fine with it b/c it's usually someone I don't know that well anyway.  How should I handle this?
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Re: Who gets invited to the bachelorette party?

  • You don't have to invite everyone invited to the bridal shower and wedding to the B-party.  However, everyone invited to the B-party must be invited to the wedding.

    Also, you shouldn't throw your own B-party.
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  • I'm not throwing my own party.  My BMs just asked me for a list of names of who I'd like to invite.

    Also, how should couples be handled?  If I invite a girl I am friendly with to my party, should my FI invite her boyfriend, also a mutual friend, to his party?
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  • I don't think your FI necessarily needs to invite the boyfriends of your female friends to his bachelor party, unless they're friendly.  They should be invited to the wedding, of course, but not necessarily the pre-wedding parties.
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  • You don't have to invite everyone who is invited to the shower and the wedding to the bachelorette.  However, everyone who is invited to the bachelorette should also be invited to the wedding.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_gets-invited-bachelorette-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:bab80462-12b0-4ba8-b7bc-699879a675a7Post:330e4054-4918-4a24-8ff2-fb53302222a1">Re: Who gets invited to the bachelorette party?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'm not throwing my own party.  My BMs just asked me for a list of names of who I'd like to invite. Also, how should couples be handled?<strong>  If I invite a girl I am friendly with to my party, should my FI invite her boyfriend, also a mutual friend, to his party?</strong>
    Posted by agu101[/QUOTE]

    <div>No, that's not necessary.</div>
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_gets-invited-bachelorette-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:bab80462-12b0-4ba8-b7bc-699879a675a7Post:5819be38-1622-4dd6-b2e6-a51c3e580b88">Re: Who gets invited to the bachelorette party?</a>:
    [QUOTE]You don't have to invite everyone who is invited to the shower and the wedding to the bachelorette.  However, everyone who is invited to the bachelorette should also be invited to the wedding.
    Posted by rebarobert2012[/QUOTE]

    This exactly. I would invite your closest friends to the bachelorette party. If you want to keep it small, then keep it small. Many people invite less people to their b-party than to their shower, especially if it's a road trip.
  • It should be whoever you are closest with, like Duds said. 
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