What is the proper etiquette for who should be invited to the bachelorette party? Does everyone age appropriate who is invited to the shower also get an invite to the bachelorette party? I have some people from graduate school who I am kind of friendly with and plan on inviting to both the wedding and the shower, but did not plan on inviting to the bachelorette party. My BMs are trying to plan some kind of destination party (nothing big like Vegas, but somewhere outside NJ) and I'd like to keep the guest list to a minimum of those I am closest to. I've definitely been invited to people's showers and not the bachelorette party, and I've been fine with it b/c it's usually someone I don't know that well anyway. How should I handle this?