Curious

arendiva

In your experience do the parents of infants assume that infants are invited to weddings. The reason I ask is because infants don't eat catered meals so I'm worried that people won't know that the absence of the baby's name means that the baby is not invited. I REALLY don't want babies at the wedding , but for etiquette reasons I would rather not put "adults only" on the invite. How can I prevent people from bringing babies (when it's not likely that they will rsvp the bay's name) without being rude?

jessicabessica

I'm not a parent, but I wouldn't assume that my infant was invited if the invitation was only addressed to my H and me.  We only had one infant on our guest list.  She was not born when our invitations went out, so we did not address it to her, but we let the parents know later that she was welcome.

Stackeye210

I ditto Cfas advice.  I just don't get mother's who assume everything is kid friendly, or that think it HAS TO BE kid friendly.  Sorry, Timmy, Tommy and Sue don't have to go everywhere you go and if they do then you'll just have to miss this.  Makes me want to junk punch people sometimes. 

Loopyseven

I would not assume my infant was invited unless the baby's name was on the invitation.  

itzMS

We had three different couples show up on the day of the wedding with their infants/toddlers who were not invited. There will always be people who don't get the hint. 
(In addition, about 10 other couples asked when invites went out if they could bring their children, to which I politely said no.)

Truly, I was kind of mad at the disrespect, but what was I supposed to do on my wedding day? Kick the babies out?  

artbyallie

Generally speaking, the people who don't get the hint when their child's name is not on the invitation will also ignore "adults only" anyway. So you're right that you shouldn't put that. Ultimately, this is something you just have to stop thinking about because you won't be able to fully control it.

ReichertWedding

I would certainly put "adults only" somewhere on the invitation to eliminate confusion later when guests do try to bring their infants.

bridalmarch

I am a mother, and we've been to four weddings in the fifteen months since my kid was born. She was only invited to one but we chose to get a babysitter anyway. I never assume she's invited unless it's addresses to our family instead of just FI and me.