So the guest list has been by far the most stressful part of planning a wedding. My fiance and I both have large families and apparently very popular parents with lots of family friends. If we invited everyone we wanted to we'd have ended up with over 300 people and that's just not feasible with our budget and the place we chose. We finally managed to get it to a comfortable place and send out invitations to 210 people. It was really tough and there are a lot of people we wish we could've invited, so for plus ones, we decided not to invite anyone "and guest." If they were in a relationship, their date was named on the invite. We hoped that would seem fair to everyone and then we wouldn't have to have randoms at our wedding ... I didn't want anyone going out of their way to find a date or ask a friend when there were plenty of people on my "B list" that I'd love to invite. I felt like this was a great solution.
Then last week it all came crashing down. In one day, my Uncle asked my dad if my cousin could bring a date, one of my fiance's friends added his own +1 even though he wasn't invited with one, and it came to my knowledge that one of my bridesmaids felt slighted for not getting a +1 (she's truly single). I'm not really sure what to do about any of these situations but we're really tight on money and space and I can't help but feel a little resentment now towards these people who are all making this situation even more difficult and stressful for me than it already was. None of these people were invited with dates because none of them were in relationships as of the last time we spoke with them and they'll all know plenty of other people at the wedding.
What to do???