and it begins...

violet355

I've already had two different people trying to add their kids to their rsvps....

one my cousin who lives in CA, and her hubby's out on tour (Navy), so at least she's trying to just substitute.

and one of my fiance's cousins who want to add their two children.

i offered to find a babysitter. seriously, i sent save-the-dates in april, and there's still more then a month until the wedding.  you still have plenty of time to arrange for babysitting people.

Avion22

So you are saying that your cousin from CA would have to travel to NJ without her child while her husband is away with the Navy?  That's a lot to ask of someone.  I wouldn't  be surprised if she declines.  

kmmssg

I have to agree with Avion on this one and I am all for no kid weddings.

joleri23

The previous two posters are right, but then again, once you make an exception for one child you're more apt to offend all the other people who want to bring their kids too. I say stick to your guns and if people decline, so be it.

crash2729

Does your cousin know people in CA or have family there? 

Maybe she doesn't know anyone there that can babysit.
I, personally, would want to make an exception for the cousin in CA but PPs are right. Once you make an exception for that cousin you have to do the same for FI's cousin.

violet355

my cousin is staying with her mom and coming home for the whole week.  i told her if she couldn't find anyone then it would be ok (i also know her sister is looking for a sitter for her older daughters who lives near their mom) i have no idea about my fiance's cousin.  they might be the one's from AZ, but i'm not sure (since i've never met them).

i did offer to find a babysitter....especially since another of my fiance's cousin's might not come because they can't find a babysitter, even though she lives the next town over from where our wedding is.

kmmssg

Keep in mind that military families don't live by g'ma and g'pa and any of the rest of the family.  They live by the base/post where they are stationed.  I can see her not wanting to leave her child behind in this case.