Hi, I'm new and while my fiance and I are not getting married for a few years yet we have begun planning and stumbled upon a question that we'd really love some feed back on: Should we serve alcohol for the enjoyment of our guests?
Here's why this is a slight issue: My fiance and I are straight-edge,one of the tenets of which is we do not drink alcohol. We don't like to do it, but we don't take issue with our friends doing so nor have we ever tried to push our lifestyle onto our friends. What's right for us, is not what is right for them. Plus, for our location we're trying to arrange having everything (ceremony&reception) at an art gallery which obviously wouldn't have a bar so we'd either have to supply the alcohol or have guests bring some.
We see it two ways:
1) We serve no alcohol, and tell the guests no bringing their own or "pre-gaming," on the grounds that we (the bride and groom) don't drink so we don't want it at our day, and the venue doesn't have anyway to serve said alcohol anyway.
-- our issue with this is that we don't want our guests to not have fun. we know that you can have fun without alcohol but also don't see any harm in a drink or two (leading to...)
2) We can allow alcohol, but limit the amount of alcohol each person can have at the wedding.
--this brings up more issues though: how many drinks does everybody get? 3? Some of our friends can get ridiculously drunk off of just 2. Where do we get the alcohol, what kind do we get? etc etc. But on the flipside, our guests might be a little more at ease, and might enjoy themselves a bit more if they do have just a glass or two.
I'd love any kind of thoughts, opinions, and comments