When should invites go out?

cgassett

When should invites go out? Our wedding is in 8 weeks (holy crap!) and I think they should go out between 8 and 6 weeks, but my mom says 6 to 4 weeks.

pokepoke27

6 - 8 weeks is what I've always read. How many out of towners do you have? If it's a lot then I would do it at either 7 or 8 weeks. If it's not many, then you can just wait until 6 weeks. 

Grits8812

I will be sending mine out right at about two months.  That gives them time to request off work, check their calendar, and get it back to you in time for you to have a final count.

LeiselEB

I personally prefer 8-10 weeks, but 6 is the latest you should send them out. 4 seems way too close.

Lark2013

I think 6-8 is the safest option, but if your mom is the kind of person who wants it her way, you can compromise (and get both time categories) by doing it at 6 weeks.

Squishy85

4 weeks would give me a panic attack! LOL! Like pp said 6 to 8 weeks is common. I would really lean more towards 8 weeks. You probably have to give your caterer (if you have one) a final count at least week before. Also, you need some time to track down people who did not respond, say 1 week. Where I work you need 4 weeks notice to put in a vacay day. Add a week for mailing to them and getting the card back ..... that all adds up to 7 weeks.

crnflkgirl75

Around 8 weeks if you have a lot of oot-ers. That way they have they chance to make travel arrangements. Otherwise, 6 weeks is fine. We did 8 since Fi's family is all on the other coast.

aleighk1

I was going to do 6 weeks but I got excited and sent them out at 8 haha If you can hold off two more weeks, I say compromise with your mom.

blgrout

I think 4-6 weeks is the norm, but sometimes you do need to send them out a little earlier for things like head count, etc.  Or like crnflkgrl said, if you have lots of OOT guests coming, earlier is usually a little better.

We did the math backwards from when we needed a final headcount for our venue (4 weeks ahead), went back 2 weeks for an RSVP date because I knew that I would spend time chasing down family who doesn't know how to RSVP, and mailed them just shy of 4 weeks before that.  So 10 weeks, which I know is probably too long in the etiquette world, but that's what we did.  And I did have to chase down about 40 people for RSVPs in the end, so I'm glad I had time for that.