RSVP crazzinessssssssssss!

patricidelight

So I am getting married in 12 days. 5 days ago we had to move our reception location due to family members. And before we had very limited space. Now we have quite a bit more room, but now a couple ppl that are finding this out are asking if its now OK to bring the kids/ppl that I told them before that it was not ok (they were not on the invite and we didnt have the room) Its a backyard reception that is not formally catered so it really would not be a big deal, I suppose. But how do I get this from getting out of control?

Tell those who asked ok? Its only a couple. Stop telling ppl it moved just announce it at the ceremony?

akhensley81

I think you definitely need to tell people that the venue changed, so they can make whatever arrangements they might need. But there's no reason to change your "rules" now. Keep telling them that you've moved the reception location, and keep telling them no - they can't bring extra guests. Suddenly having extra space does not equal suddenly being able to afford to pay for more guests.

Manwaithiel

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_rsvp-crazzinessssssssssss?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:bcdf6093-ad06-46ce-8cae-c612b0af25e1Post:856e31b8-fa8f-4aec-b15c-65043a50127c">Re: RSVP crazzinessssssssssss!</a>:
[QUOTE]Tread lightly... Keep in mind that many of your guest followed etiquette and refrained from asking to bring additional uninvited people to your wedding.  They might be angry if they find out that if they had called and asked to bring extra people (which is obnoxious for a guest to do) then their "bad" behavior would have been rewarded. I would take another look at the guest list as a whole and decide whose kids you want to invite and to whom else you'd like to extend a guest.  I would make sure not to ignore those who were conscientious enough to respect your invite and NOT ask in the first place.
Posted by katelynbrian[/QUOTE]

No.

Do not include any children.

Your rule has been no kids. Don't change it now and start inviting some but not others. If you think this won't make you look VERY bad, then I'm pretty sure you'll find out on the wedding day.

You either need to invite everyone's kids or none. THAT is fair to all your guests.

AmeliaMarie

Be careful about just letting people know about the change via the website and information at the ceremony.  People may have gone to your website when they got the invitation, but there would be no reason for them to check back again now.   Also, some people may not go to the ceremony, for whatever reason.  You should try to contact everyone personally about the change by e-mail, phone, or postcard.  If you can't do any of that, you should at least have something or someone at the old venue to send people to the new one.

brilibby4

I don't think you should change your rule now.  You might have people who were originally told they couldn't bring their kids getting upset when they see other children there or learn that the rules were changed for some.  To keep it under control I wouldn't allow any guests than you would have at the original location.