MOH/Bridesmaid Duties??

PhoneCardLady

I know that basically a MOH/Bridesmaid duties are to purchase the dress and show up the day of the wedding (sober).

I know they are NOT expected to:
 
Give a bridal shower
Give a bachelorette party
Run errands
Do DIY items

My question is this - is it improper to ask them to assist you the "day of" - such as helping you with your dress, adjusting your train, holding the ring/bouquet?

lyndausvi

I do not think so.  I also would kind-of sided a MOH or BM for that matter who wouldn't offer to do those things.     

To me they are one of the few 'duties' a MOH or BM has.

jennylee813

Those are reasonable requests. And as noted, it's probably a good idea to assign (or ask) specific tasks to each one. (Ie. "Susan, would you mind holding my bouquet during the ceremony? I'd really appreciate it. Thanks!")

Avion22

I think those are fine!   I agree with asking each girl specifically what you want them to do, so it's clear who you want to do what.

Also, remember that fixing your train and holding your bouquet are fairly standard parts of most wedding ceremonies, so these are things you can go over at the rehearsal (if you're having one).   Anything else at the ceremony (like doing a reading, for example, or holding his ring) should be asked ahead of time!

Edited to add:  the only reason I think you should ask about holding the ring ahead of time is because some people really might not feel comfortable holding something that important.  Holding your bouquet or fixing your train are much less likely to result in an embarassing disaster:-)

Ali092011

I think it's reasonable to ask those things. Usually the MOH is standing closest to you during the ceremony, so she would adjust the train and hold your bouquet, but you can do it however you want!

I also think it's pretty much known by anyone in the BP that they would help with those things.

Loopyseven

Ditto the PP's.  Assuming you asked friends to be in your wedding party, I would think that as FRIENDS they'd be willing and eager to help out with those kinds of things on the day of.

PhoneCardLady

Well, I must admit I was a bit confused here.  After being on the boards for so long and some people being very adament (sp?) about just having the duty of buying the dress and showing up sober left me to wonder if they were really needed.....

I mean, if you couldn't ask them to assit you the day of, then why even have them in the first place?

So, with that being said, you have greatly eased my mind...