How to handle a child that bites at my wedding?

lindseyl06

At first I wasn't going to have any children there solely because of this issue but I dont get to see some of my nieces and nephews alot so I did want them there. Actually I wanted all of them to be there except for this little boy. He is my brother's future stepson. He will bite children, adults, whatever he can get his teeth into. My children's past birthday parties he has bitten at least 3 kids each time. His mother and my brother dont discipline him about this. They act like they dont even see it sometimes till an upset parent approaches them showing them teethmarks in their child's arm. Im fearful that some guests will not even want to show because they know that the little boy will be coming. I dont want it to be a NO Children wedding, but what other choice do I have?

KellyBrian2013

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[QUOTE]At first I wasn't going to have any children there solely because of this issue but I dont get to see some of my nieces and nephews alot so I did want them there. Actually I wanted all of them to be there except for this little boy. He is my brother's future stepson. He will bite children, adults, whatever he can get his teeth into. My children's past birthday parties he has bitten at least 3 kids each time. His mother and my brother dont discipline him about this. They act like they dont even see it sometimes till an upset parent approaches them showing them teethmarks in their child's arm. Im fearful that some guests will not even want to show because they know that the little boy will be coming. I dont want it to be a NO Children wedding, but what other choice do I have?
Posted by lindseyl06[/QUOTE]

The same brother who is forcing you into his wedding?

How old is the child in question? How old are most of the children that you want to invite?

SCbride12

Based on your last post you have roughly a year and a half until your wedding, correct? I would maybe re-evaluate a little closer to your date.

mari0225

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[QUOTE]Based on your last post you have roughly a year and a half until your wedding, correct? I would maybe re-evaluate a little closer to your date.
Posted by SCbride12[/QUOTE]

This, the child could've grown out of it by the time your wedding date arrives.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

Don't invite the kid.

Or, thwuck him with a tranquilizer dart.  Thwuck.  Right in the neck.

Mrs.B6302007

Clearly the answer here is that the child must wear a muzzle for the day. J/k

specialk84

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[QUOTE]Based on your last post you have roughly a year and a half until your wedding, correct? I would maybe re-evaluate a little closer to your date.
Posted by SCbride12[/QUOTE]

<div>This.</div><div>
</div><div>Growing up, I remember a couple of kids who had a biting problem. They grew out of it.</div><div>
</div><div>FWIW, if you invite all the other kids, but not this little boy (an impression I got from your OP)--your brother's stepson, I guarantee you'll stir up a giant shitstorm. I think it would be unbelievably cruel, and is an excellent way to make your friends and family think you're a cold-hearted monster.</div>

crfische

LIKE DEXTER!!!

PetalPockets2012

Just make sure you bite him before the ceremony starts. If you bite them, aren't they supposed to stop?


Edit: spelling

graysquirrel

I think that the only options are to invite all kids or none at all. There is no nice way to exclude the kid. But honestly, I don't think that his behvaior is your responsibility. If he bites someone at your wedding, that is between the family of the biter and the bitten. You cannot be held responsible for one child biting another at your wedding full of guests. 

lindseyl06

I was thinking about waiting a little closer to see if he changes. His attitude has actually gotten worse. He's been like this for a long time now. My son is a yr and some mons older than him but is very smaller than him and is TERRIFIED of him because he has been bitten by him before. The little boy is 2, will be 3 when my wedding happens. My other nieces and nephews are all older and very well behaved. I feel like I would be out of line inviting them and not my brother's future kids. However, they are ignoring the problem (or wishing in their mind it would go away). I actually had to spank him at his own birthday party because he was trying to bite my son again. I felt really bad because I ABSOLUTELY do not discipline other ppl's children. It was just an automatic response to protecting my son. They didnt have an objection to it, however.

KellyBrian2013

My brother got sent home from daycare on multiple occassions for biting. True story.

He doesn't bite anyone now, though. We probably should have muzzled him back then, though. I just bit back...

... wait, that's NOT the correct solution!? Oh crap.

lindseyl06

My mother has tried biting him. This child is unreal... He feels NO PAIN!!!!!!!!

mari0225

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[QUOTE]I was thinking about waiting a little closer to see if he changes. His attitude has actually gotten worse. He's been like this for a long time now. My son is a yr and some mons older than him but is very smaller than him and is TERRIFIED of him because he has been bitten by him before. The little boy is 2, will be 3 when my wedding happens. My other nieces and nephews are all older and very well behaved. I feel like I would be out of line inviting them and not my brother's future kids. However, they are ignoring the problem (or wishing in their mind it would go away). I actually had to spank him at his own birthday party because he was trying to bite my son again. I felt really bad because I ABSOLUTELY do not discipline other ppl's children. It was just an automatic response to protecting my son. They didnt have an objection to it, however.
Posted by lindseyl06[/QUOTE]

He should grow out of it, but like Gray said his behavior is his parents responsiblity so if he does bite anyone at the wedding then it is on them.

crfische

Wait. Your mom tried biting him?

KellyBrian2013

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[QUOTE]I was thinking about waiting a little closer to see if he changes. His attitude has actually gotten worse. He's been like this for a long time now. My son is a yr and some mons older than him but is very smaller than him and is TERRIFIED of him because he has been bitten by him before. The little boy is 2, will be 3 when my wedding happens. My other nieces and nephews are all older and very well behaved. I feel like I would be out of line inviting them and not my brother's future kids. However, they are ignoring the problem (or wishing in their mind it would go away). I actually had to spank him at his own birthday party because he was trying to bite my son again. I felt really bad because I ABSOLUTELY do not discipline other ppl's children. It was just an automatic response to protecting my son. They didnt have an objection to it, however.
Posted by lindseyl06[/QUOTE]

He is two. It's called "terrible twos" for a reason - and the likelihood is that he'll have outgrown it by the time your wedding rolls around.

Also: I have an issue with people disciplining other people's children. "Protecting your son" would mean removing him from the situation - not using your hand to smack another person's child (and FTR: I have no issues with parents who spank their <em>own</em> children).

KellyBrian2013

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[QUOTE]My mother has tried biting him. This child is unreal... He feels NO PAIN!!!!!!!!
Posted by lindseyl06[/QUOTE]

This is a joke, right?

crfische

Well, I have issues about people spanking their own children too, so there's THAT.

mari0225

I am not a parent, but I don't think biting the child is necessarily the correct response.

Mrs.B6302007

Dude. You spanked someone else's kid?

lindseyl06

When I had the birthday parties and the kids there were getting bit, I just felt terrible bringing their kids into that type of environment. At all my kids b-day parties the same ppl always show. Till now, we have NEVER had this problem of any child getting hurt. I feel responsible for whatever happens. And he has bitten a parent on the behind. The parent tried to laugh it off, but I noticed she couldnt sit down for the rest of the evening.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

There's actually a disorder that causes people to feel no pain.  It's serious business.  I know, because I saw that shiit on Grey's Anatomy.

If she really does bites the kid, she's a feckin' moron, btw.

PetalPockets2012

I'm surprised they didn't mind you spanking him. I would NEVER touch another persons' child. Ever.

FTR, my suggestion of biting him before the ceremony was a joke. I don't want OP to try that either.

crfische

ANSWER THE QUESTIONS, LINDSEY.

Everything I need to know about being a doctor, I learned from Grey's Anatomy.

Just like everything I need to know about forensics, I learned from Bones.

i'm the smartest muzzah fucka all up in the shizz.

crfische

PetalPockets, you are being a BAD INFLUENCE.

Mrs.B6302007

And your mom bit him? Your family takes that village to raise a kid thing seriously don't you?

mari0225

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[QUOTE]I'm surprised they didn't mind you spanking him. I would NEVER touch another persons' child. Ever. FTR, my suggestion of biting him before the ceremony was a joke. I don't want OP to try that either.
Posted by PetalPockets2012[/QUOTE]

I have worked a lot with children and a lot of the parents used to ask me to spank their children, I never did because I just wasn't comfortable doing it. So it doesn't really suprise me, better Aunt Lindsey be the bad guy then mom or dad.

specialk84

WTF is wrong with you? You spanked someone else's child? Your mom BIT him?

Don't ever come near my hypothetical future child.

Snippylynn

Something tells me this thread is going to get very interesting.

crfische

Who the eff are these people who let other people smack their kids?

Fucking weirdos.

KellyBrian2013

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[QUOTE]Who the eff are these people who let other people smack their kids? Fucking weirdos.
Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]

Or BITE them?!