Head table seating

claire_9

Hello, all. We don't have enough room at our head table to fit the whole bridal party. One BM, married to GM and their kids are our RB and FG, so we were thinking of putting them at their own table, but is that appropriate? We were thinking of sitting them with another BM and GM who are together at that table, and then the rest of the party at the head table with us. I don't think that would be appropriate, but FI brought up the idea and said they would be fine with it because their kids are small and they would have to help them with dinner. The rest of the bridal party doesn't have a date coming, except for one, and I know that her date is fine sitting with other people coming to the reception.

Is it appropriate to have some people at the head table and not everyone? Sould we just do a sweetheart table and the rest of the party at regular tables?  Do I have any other options?

Thank you!

Maggie0829

Just do a sweetheart table and have the rest of your WP sit with their SO, kids, and/or dates.

You could also sit with your MOH and BM and their SO/dates and kids if they have any at a table and then surround yourself with the rest of the WP and their SO/dates and kids.

gurrlballa10

Do a sweetheart table or just sit with everyone else.  I've never seen a head table in person, but the ones I've seen in pictures and on TV look so odd.  Also, if I was the BP member who was to be split up from my H, I would end up in a seriously pissy mood. 

SKPM

Whatever you choose, please don't split up any WP members from their SOs. PPs have great suggestions: sweetheart table, sit with best man and MOH and their dates, sit with both sets of parents, etc.

Lolagirl2012

Ditto all PP. Get some one-on-one time with you FI while you eat dinner and allow your WP to sit with the guests they have chosen to bring.

I was a BM in a wedding where my FI and I literally knew 0 people and the bride stuck my very shy and soft-spoken FI by himself at a table with a group of her elderly family members, all in couples who didn't engage him at all (even when he tried). Needless to say, I ate fairly quickly and ditched the head table ASAP to bail him out.

Not to mention, we traveled for the wedding and she excluded him from the RD and he was stuck in a hotel by himself all weekend.

MyNameIsNot

I wouldn't exclude part of the WP just because they have kids.  I would either do a sweetheart table and put everyone where they would otherwise sit, or put yourselves at a table with the honor attendants or sibling attendants and their dates/families.  

claire_9

Thanks everyone! We've decided on a sweetheart table!