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Long Lost Hello

I don't even know if that makes any since. Anyhow. Hello dear lovelies! So I very much live in New Haven, CT now. It is amazingly different here. We moved for Russ to attend Yale for graduate school in Divinity (Ethics). The move could of course have gone better--but nothing major to complain about the actual move. We have a blog we update to attempt to stay connected to family and friends, thus if you care for more detail you can check that out. http://russandkristy.tumblr.com/ So... the move hasn't been so easy. I've never been the homesick type. I even went to boarding school when I was 13 and haven't been back "home" since, and lived in Budapest when I was 15, very very far from "home." And then all of a sudden, here I am 24, moving with my best friend and husband, and we move up North and I feel strangely homesick. Truthfully I feel like much of my homesickness is not for say, Charlotte and certainly not my parents house, but rather the way life was in Charlotte--which was... budgeted, it all worked, we had schedules, jobs, etc., and the grocery store wasn't 30 minutes away--and it had wine in it. Here, none of these things exist. I have had a truly horrendous experience with work thus far. It is absolutely psychotic, to show up and pick up my shoes that were left at the studio (pilates) I'm considering a police escort and likely will be consulting lawyers here soon. So on top of this psycho situation that would be silly to attempt to explain, I am now back at square one, almost one month into being unemployed (from the time we finished working in CLT) and have no clue where to begin. Being our primary income for the next 8 years this is more than unsettling. Of course I've begun some search, but it is a crazy environment to look for work right now particularly in a new field in a place with no contacts. I feel more hope about the situation this week than last, last was just terrible. I'm sorry for the complaining but I'm one for truth and relative transparency. I do hope you all are well. I've been on here to lurk some in times of complete exhaustion. And I feel like I'm back in the bride world (if I ever left) as my best friend who lives in Savannah got engaged last Sunday! It's been fun. I love the planning. Your turn. Life. Wedding plans and/or hang-ups. FMIL rants. Bring it on.
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    edited December 2011
    Good to hear the move went pretty well. I understand about the whole moving thing, we just moved to DC and I hate it. Its a way different environment and I miss the south sooo much. And I am yet to find a job, I've been looking for 2 months and nothing. But I just graduate and have no experience, so I bet you'll have better luck. At least, DH has a very good job. Anyways, good luck on the job search and try staying positive.
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    edited December 2011
    I'm sorry to hear that things have been off to a rocky start! My thoughts are with you, and I hope it gets better soon!
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    smlinebesmlinebe member
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    edited December 2011
    Hey Kristy!  I'm not around here a whole lot anymore either.  I'm glad the move went well but I'm sorry you are having such a hard time adjusting.  My husband just finished grad school and is in search of a job.  Once he finds one, we will move wherever the job is, so for me, it's like I'm in limbo.  I could be moving next month but I have no idea when or where.  And unlike you, I have never lived more than an hour away from my family so I know I will be homesick, because I know there is no work here for my husband.  We signed the shortest lease possible on our place (4 months) so we won't have to break it but who knows if we may have to extend it!  Ahhh now I feel better, too :)
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    allie76allie76 member
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    edited December 2011
    Hey Kristy! I'm sorry to hear that are a little rough in your new area. I hope things get better quickly! I've been meaning to email you; I was wondering who your church directors were for your ceremony. Cheyenne told me what happened at your wedding and I just found out the names of mine. Just wondering if they are the same one or not!
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    edited December 2011
    Hey Kristy!  Its good to hear from you.  I'm sorry to hear that things are tough for you up north, but at least the move went mostly well.  I'm glad you were able to spend some quality time with your parents before they left.  Have you tried networking on the CT nest boards at all?  I wonder if Russ's contacts at Yale would be able to help you get any job leads...  I've never been to New England but I imagine it is a bit of a culture shock.  Hopefully you'll be able to adjust a little before the winter sets in!Also, those Newfies are the cutest things I've ever seen.  When will you all decide if you're going to get one or not?
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    edited December 2011
    Kristy - just wanted to say "hi" over here.  I'll write you back later, what you said in regards to my 'wings' makes a lot of sense, I just need to figure out the exercises to minimize them!
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    edited December 2011
    Allison—What happened at my wedding with Cheyenne and them was terrible. So upsetting. Argh. Anyhow, I had three directors. Two were veterans, one was a newb shadowing I suppose. I don’t know who acted how as I was not the one receiving the wrath of any of this, but rather Cheyenne, my MOH, my BMs, etc. I attempted to have them describe who the super crazy one was to me and I couldn’t figure out which one it was of the two vets. I was told one of the women there was way nicer and didn’t so much care as long as Cheyenne was still but the other woman obviously trumped that lady if she ever even spoke up to anyone but my sister (MOH). I know one of their names was Missy Buttler, the other two I could either recognize if you post yours names or I could look back in my files as I have it written somewhere. Ps. This is another reason I’m very glad I didn’t print their names in my bulletin as some had or give them flowers, as they were not on my side/my team, they were on a combination of their own and the churches (mostly their own).
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    edited December 2011
    Britney—That’s a good idea about the CT board, I went on and lurked some once we found out we were moving and they seemed very dead in comparison to the NC knot and nest boards. So I haven’t been back since. We are attempting to make connections through Russ’ position at the school… but while the admissions people know him, no one else really does yet. And the Mom we were/are looking to get a puppy from we were just informed this weekend that she is indeed pregnant and will be delivering them on my husbands Birthday week (Sept. 1). He wants a puppy more than anything in the world. They would be ready for pick up 8 weeks later. If I had a job we would be on that ish. If I don’t get one (and a good one at that) in the next few weeks we are going to have to pass on this litter and wait at least until the Spring. I’m not setting my hopes on one from this litter at this point. Sadly.
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    edited December 2011
    Megan—Glad it made since at least! Have your fiancé watch you in push up position with your knees on the ground, attempt good form (ie. Like an arrow from the crown of your head down through the point of connection to the floor (knees)) and in this position attempt long breaths and with each exhale think of sliding your shoulder blades not in, but down your back, while thinking of widening your collar bone (front of your chest). See if with practice you are able to flatten them that way, they will not stay. But if you can even get them to do it in that position that is a starting place and a great place to go from that I can then give a little more help. Or even easier would be push up position (straight legs) with your hands straight out in front of you on to a wall, then attempt the same activations (this would be the first and easiest place to start actually, so they are in working position without bearing hardly any weight). Make sense?
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    edited December 2011
    Hmm I've never been on any of the Nest boards but if they're dead then it probably won't help you much.  Have you gotten involved in a church up there yet?  IMO networking is the most effective way to get a job.  You can always try LinkedIn just to find companies/people in your area that are in your industry.And I totally understand about the puppy.  We got our dog at the end of February and its amazing how easily the vet bills add up, especially if there are any complications.  I'll keep my fingers crossed for you for sure!  Its good that you found a breeder you like and they'll most likely have a spring litter in case things don't work out now :)
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    edited December 2011
    Kristy - I'm sorry to hear about the trouble settling in.  I'm not sure I have any words of wisdom other than just 'hang in there.'  Regarding job searching - I was out of work for a time last year and started doing some volunteer work in my field.  That helped me get out of the house and have something rewarding to do AND it also helped me make some great contacts.  If I come up with any other brilliant ideas, I'll let you know :) My vent of the day is related to the house-buying process.  We've been negotiating for our first home since Friday.  We submitted our final offer today and if this builder (it's a new house) doesn't take it, I'm going to be seriously upset!  Just ready to be settled already!  FI and I don't currently live together, so we'd really like to have our home together settled before the wedding so we can come back from the HM and just enjoy each other.  Ok...vent over! 
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    allie76allie76 member
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks Kristy...Missy is one of them and the other one is Lynnette (can't remember her last name). Does she ring a bell?
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks Kristy!  I will try that.  FI is going to be an animal doctor, but he had to take lots of human anatomy classes in undergrad so he should have a good understanding of the muscles and know if I am doing something wrong.
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    edited December 2011
    Hello! I still lurk about here myself. There are so many new brides! It's exciting to hear their plans, but it's always great to see a familiar "face". I'm happy the move is over for you. That can be so stressful! I am in a similar position. I don't know if you remember or not, but I moved to NC from FL after my wedding in May. I am so happy to be with my sweetheart all the time! However, it's always hard to adjust to a new setting and schedule. I have been unemployed for 3 months. I have had lots of interviews. Most have said something to the effect of "when the economy turns around" they'd love to have me. That doesn't mean a lot though when I'm the sole wage earner, like yourself, while my husband is in law school. I finally took a part time job in retail while waiting to hear the results of the most recent round of interviews. NOT my ideal. Good for you getting out of a scary work situation. You should never put yourself in a position where you are in the least bit concerned for your safety! It's great to hear an update from you! Good luck with all your pursuits!
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    edited December 2011
    Campbelle - what part of NC did you move to?
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    edited December 2011
    Redhead - aka honeymoon twin ;-) - The hubs is in law school at UNC Chapel Hill, and we live in Carrboro.
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    edited December 2011
    oh cool - you're close by! (I'm in North Raleigh).
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    grace_ugagrace_uga member
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    edited December 2011
    You live Carrboro - lucky!  I love it there!!  Too far of a commute for work though...  GL to everyone who is currently out of a job.  I second the volunteer thing.  Also, I recommend starting with temp agencies too.  When I graduated from college, it was really difficult to get a job where we lived, so I signed up with a temp agency and within three weeks I had multiple positions offer me an opportunity. 
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    edited December 2011
    Redhead, hello neighbor!
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    edited December 2011
    lusher - so cool that we are neighbors!
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    wlfpkbridewlfpkbride member
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    edited December 2011
    I know this is super late but I wanted to say Hi anyway.I hope you warm up to CT...I can imagine things are very different up there. GL on the job search as well!
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