Alcoholics at my wedding

andy71781

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Alcoholics at my wedding : Imma go out on a limb here and say that if you are legal to drink you should be able to control yourself in public, regardless if you are at a wedding or at a bar. 
Posted by Rosie109[/QUOTE]
word.  I think its pretty silly to limit alcohol to adults.

ECI1151

 I really think that if your friends really want to drink they will find a way no matter what restrictions you try to put on the bar. If they already know that you are only going to have a 2 drink limit they will most likely sneak it in or something since it sounds like they are wanting to have just more than two drinks at the wedding.

Plus, though I do not know your friends, i think you may be pleasently suprise how well someone who has been drinking can handle themselves when grandma is sitting at the next table over.

One last thing, anyone else hate the "If you have to drink to have fun then you have a pathetic life" quote? No, I do not have to drink to have fun. Yes, I do like to go out and have fun with friends while having drinks. And I do not think I have a pathetic life a all.

Rosie109

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Alcoholics at my wedding : word.  I think its pretty silly to limit alcohol to adults.
Posted by andy71781[/QUOTE]

<div>andplusalso if a person is known to be out of control when they drink, I would know to maybe not invite them. I have lots of friends from college that were gooooood drinking buddies, but will not be invited to my wedding.</div>

DramaGeek

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Alcoholics at my wedding : Wait - people can't get drunk from beer and wine?  That is super fantastic news for me.
Posted by kellyjellybelly[/QUOTE]

hah!  No, I was just thinking it would take a lot more, and therefore longer, for them to get drunk that way, perhaps solving the problem.

Simply Fated

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Alcoholics at my wedding : hah!  No, I was just thinking it would take a lot more, and therefore longer, for them to get drunk that way, perhaps solving the problem.
Posted by DramaGeek[/QUOTE]
That's my thinking on it, too.

It might not solve the problem, but it might help.

shortee426

OP, I'm a little confused.  You said that you just graduated college, which means you are about the same age as the friends you are referring to.  How come you're old enough to know how to act at a wedding but they are not?

Next time they mention wanting to get totally wasted at your wedding, you can politely tell them that you would prefer if they didn't.  Truth is, they're going to anyway if they really want to.  And unless they end up doing something completely outrageous like putting a strip tease on for Grandma it really isn't going to effect your day in a negative way.  Heck...them dancing around like drunk idiots might encourage others to get up and dance, and isn't that part of what makes a wedding fun?

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landra310s

Ok so drink tickets are INCREDIBLY tacky...  Secondly, if you tell people it's a dry wedding, they will pregame and be wasted before the wedding even starts.  Or bring it with them.  It's not hard to sneak your own drinks into a wedding.  If they are drinkers they are going to drink whether you provide it or not.  I would do beer and wine and leave it at that.  it will take longer for them to get drunk off that than liquor.

adrop

Ok, so I didn't read all of the messages as there were too many.  I hope you take the chance to read this because a lot of people have been giving unconstructive advice.  I can partially understand your worry.  When we (the bridal party) turned up at the reception of my sisters wedding, so of the younger guests had already got into some rtds and were pretty drunk.  It annoyed my sister, one of the girls was sitting on the floor using a chair as a pillow by the end of the evening.  Not classy!

I think if some of my friends told me they were pre-gaming (ok, I'm a Kiwi so I don't know this term but I guess it means drinking before the event?) to my face, I would have taken it as a joke, laugh and say something along the lines of "I hope not! Not at a wedding! My Grandma will be there!".  Otherwise it's difficult to say what to do.  I would take some of the above advice and speak with the staff.  Slow drink service might also help.

Don't stress too much beforehand though, you don't want to ruin your day by worrying about it and have it all turn out fine!  Take some precautions then put it out of your mind.