Father Daughter Dance- Too many "fatherly figures"

heart bride

Hello All!  

 I REALLY need help!  I have asked one of my grandfathers (my mothers father) to walk me down the isle.  The reasons are as follows

1) My mother and my step father will not be attending (because she is insulted that my biological father is attending)
2) I do not have a close "father daughter" relationship with my biological father, whom I did not meet until I was 16
3)  My grandfather was the only man that was ever consistent in my life (with exception to my loving fiancé), and has ALWAYS stood by me and supported me. 

With all that said- My biological father, and his family will be attending the wedding, as well as another set of grandparents that are wonderful and loving...

I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, especially my other grandfather.  But I also think doing 3 dances is a bit much. 

Also, my fiance and I are paying for the entire wedding  (with the exception of my gown which my grandfather and my fiancés grandmother were so gracious to provide)- Just so you have all of the details to help us make a decison


Thank you sooooo much for the feedback and help!  I REALLY need it

baystateapple

Do you need to do the father-daughter dance?  It's not necessary.  If you really want to have it with your grandfather, just do it, and don't do any other father-daughter dances.  Three is far too much.

mbody

Do you want to include the other grandfather and your biological dad? If not, then don't. No one should be offended because it's really about your relationship with your grandfather.

And if you do want to dance with them, rather than having three seperate dances, you could always just split one song. Like each can dance to a 1/3 of the song. Or 1/2 the song between two people.

my32672

I am having this same delimma, only mine is a step-father, father, and grandfather. 

Is it necessary to have the father-daughter dance when my FI desperately wants to do the son-mother dance? 

tpender13

I would just skip the "father/daughter" dance altogether. You could always just ask them to dance with you at some point in the evening, without making it an event that everyone has to watch.

heart bride

Thanks everyone!  I really think skipping the dance all together sounds like the best idea. 

my32672, how about just letting your FI do the dance with his mother, and that being the end of it.

Or you could just do it with your grandfather - that way you are not "choosing" between dads.