First question:
My cousin sent me a FB message today asking if my 2nd cousin (her daughter) could bring a "date" to the wedding. I tried to use all the smarts I've gained from hanging out on this board, and so I asked if the date was her boyfriend. She said "not yet, they're just good friends."
Now, honestly we hadn't planned on plus-ones for our single guests because most of the adults have significant others who are invited (of course). With my 2nd cousin being underage and single, I hadn't really thought about her wanting to bring someone.
So I told my cousin all of this and said I would have to talk it over with my parents, as they are the ones hosting the wedding. I have a feeling my mom will want to say no. I'll explain to her the etiquette rules on inviting significant others, but I guess my question is:
If they aren't dating when the invitations go out, am I obligated to invite him as a plus one after the fact? Invitations haven't gone out YET so I guess there is still time for them to begin a relationship.
Second question:
Another cousin of mine (I have a lot) has recently "split" from his wife. They are not legally divorced or even separated yet, but they are no longer living together. Should I still send the invitation to my cousin as Mr. and Mrs. Cousin? I don't mind inviting his ex, but I feel like it would make him really upset. He's taking the split really hard. I want to follow the proper etiquette but I don't want to hurt his feelings, either.