Venue thought I booked them for my wedding, but I never did.

kate&cor2012

So, I just got an email from a venue I had looked into in March '11 saying "Hey how is planning going? I was wondering if you had gotten your liquor license yet' among a couple other things. Problem is, I hadn't heard from this woman since I Emailed her over a year ago, nor did I even pay a deposit which was required to book the venue. I simply said "I will be in touch to make arrangements for the deposit" and completely forgot about it after my in law's had secured a deposit with a different venue. I realize this is my goof up as well as hers since "I'll be in touch" really leaves the door open. On the other hand, not contacting me until two weeks before the proposed date (I indicated I would like July 7th 2012 but went with another date entirely) makes me really glad I didn't book with them.
 
I feel like a moron and that I will somehow be on the hook for a never paid deposit because I never told them i wasn't using them - but I really thought you only had a venue until you had money down on it! My first instinct was to block and ignore because I am stressed and don't want to deal with it, but that's childish. How odd is this? Anyone ever experienced this and how would you tactfully respond?

Summer2011Bride

I would e-mail back and say, "I never booked your venue for my event. We spoke last year, but we decided to go another direction. If I am on the calendar for _____(insert date) please remove me. Thank you" or something along those lines. If you never signed a contract or paid a deposit, you didn't book the venue, Not sure where the wires got crossed.

kate&cor2012

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[QUOTE]I would e-mail back and say, "I never booked your venue for my event. We spoke last year, but we decided to go another direction. If I am on the calendar for _____(insert date) please remove me. Thank you" or something along those lines. If you never signed a contract or paid a deposit, you didn't book the venue, Not sure where the wires got crossed.
Posted by Summer2011Bride[/QUOTE]

Yeah I thought it was weird, I never signed anything or even spoke after that and with my current venue there was multiple emails, phone calls, meetings, signed contracts and deposits. She goofed up hard and looks like she will have some explaining to do to her boss.

nextrightthing

Maybe she emailed you by accident.  I know in Outlook, sometimes when I type in the first few letters of someone's email address, another address comes up that begins with those letters.  Sometimes I select it by accident. 
In any case, yeah, you don't need to worry about being bound to this venue.  If you didn't sign a contract, you are not under any obligation.

willywally5

Wow! That is weird. And seems horribly disorganized on the venue's part. 

I'd just email her. And be glad you didn't go there because it sounds like a mess!

kate&cor2012

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[QUOTE]Maybe she emailed you by accident.  I know in Outlook, sometimes when I type in the first few letters of someone's email address, another address comes up that begins with those letters.  Sometimes I select it by accident.  In any case, yeah, you don't need to worry about being bound to this venue.  If you didn't sign a contract, you are not under any obligation.
Posted by nextrightthing[/QUOTE]

That's what I thought. Maybe she had a folder for "July Bride's" and just failed to take me out and meant to reply to whomever took the July 7th spot.

RebeccaB88

That's what I was thinking, that she emailed the wrong person.  Or even that they still have that date open and she's trying to fill it.  I find it hard to believe that they'd hold a date for that long for someone who hasn't made a deposit and signed a contract.

achiduck

Very odd, I'd just e-mail her back and correct the mistake. If no contract was signed and no deposit was made you should be fine.

jessicabessica

I wouldn't say "please remove me from your calendar" or anything to imply that you might have been booked for the date.  Go with the PPs that suggested telling her that she must have meant to contact someone else, because you met her over a year ago and did not book with her.

angelsong21

That's crazy - hopefully it was just an error and she thought she selected someone else's name in her e-mail when she addressed it.  We had a catering company that I looked into well over a year before our wedding on May 25th.  Never got a detailed quote from them, never did a tasting, never spoke on the phone.  All of a sudden around mid-April, I started getting calls from them wanting to secure my menu for my wedding on 5/25.  They were clearly desperate for business.  I never called them back though.

anniversaryontheway

My wedding was at a place called The View. There is a similar place in the same area called The View (over Mt. Fuji, or something). The 2nd is not usually a wedding venue, but it could be. The week of my wedding, I called 411 to get the # for my venue and said I'd be meeting them and my dad about 15 minutes late with a check.

I called the wrong View to say I'd be late.

When I got to the meeting, nobody blinked about my lateness or my call (I had a check in hand).

About 2 hours later, View #2 called to ask why I didn't show up.

We both realized the mistake and the owner said, "Thank God. I was here worrying about how I'd tell you I had no record of your wedding in our books and I thought you'd be coming to freak out on me."

We laughed, and I told him about our plans at the other place.

He said, "I would have given  you a better deal per plate, by the way."

I said, "But you weren't available anyway!"

jmayinc

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[QUOTE]Very odd, I'd just e-mail her back and correct the mistake. If no contract was signed and no deposit was made you should be fine.
Posted by achiduck[/QUOTE]

Yea. You aren't liable for anything if there is no contract or deposit etc. I wouldn't ignore her though. If she DID email by mistake, she may be waiting for a reply from the one who did book. Just get it over with and email her so you don't have to think about it anymore.