Ok people, you may or may not believe this one. I'm getting married in 5 days. A woman, whom I'll call T, sent me a text message this morning. She wanted to know if this other woman, M, could come to the wedding. She said she'd bring a gift, but wasn't sure since she didn't get an official invite. T has brought M to some parties before, so I've met her once or twice. Also, a few years ago (before my fiance and I were dating) she tried to get him to date M. Our venue is not all that small, but we did have to cut people that were important in our lives in order to have enough space for people that are really important in our lives. And it's not an inexpensive venue or something, either. We are paying a lot of money per plate for dinner. Plus, 5 days from the wedding we have turned in final numbers for the caterers. Why would she think it was ok for her to invite an extra person to our wedding? She didn't get an official invite because she was not invited! My answer to her was this, " We have already turned in our final numbers, and our space is limited. We even had to make cuts of important people to make room for really important people (like you and your family). She is welcome to come to the ceremony, but we will not have space for her at the reception." Was that an appropriate response? I want to try to be classy, even if she is being rude.