Bridal shower invitations for bride who already has the basics.

bookishvirgo

I own a home with my fiance and we already have pots and pans, towels, vacuum cleaner, etc. I don't see the point in me having a registry for such items. Of course my fiance and I would gladly accept gift cards to places like Lowe's and Home Depot to fix things in our house. But I don't know if it's in good taste to ask for that either. What should I do?

ahhhitsshannyn

Decline having a Bridal Shower.

Katelyn89

Last week I was invited to a "gift card" baby shower. Apparently the mom to be has everything she needs and wants gift cards. I don't like being told what to spend my money on and I declined the shower invite. I say skip the shower if you have everything you need.

Kate61487

Ditto PPs, if you don't want physical gifts skip the shower.

If you want to upgrade some kitchen essentials (I had a full kitchen also, but hardly any of it matched or was great quality) then you could also register for like new power tools and actual physical items at home depot or lowes that you might need/want?

*if home depot or lowes doesn't have an actual registry you can use one of those online registries where you can link directly to different websites - I'd still recommend you register for a FEW things in a traditional store, though, for less tech-savvy guests

bookishvirgo

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bridal-shower-invitations-for-bride-who-already-has-the-basics?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:bffce850-98ab-4c8d-8b05-0a0f6d66a6d4Post:ed93cd65-cc64-4e52-b737-1be7b4f0a038">Re: Bridal shower invitations for bride who already has the basics.</a>:
[QUOTE]If you prefer cash/gift cards, I would just skip the shower (since those are for physical gifts).  People will probably give you the cash/checks/gift cards at the wedding.
Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]


I could skip the shower. I regret now buying all the stuff from Bath and Body Works to give as prizes. I've been a bridesmaid three times and have thrown three really nice showers for my friends. Selfish as it sounds, I wanted my turn to have a nice shower too even though I already live with my fiance. But it's probably best to not have one anyways, my mother told me she can't pitch in any money for it. I know etiquette says the bridal party pays but where I'm from it's usually the brides parents. My bridal party are all struggling financially so I also don't expect them to fork over cash they don't have.

melb2013

It souds like nobody offered to throw you a shower anyway, so no biggie to just skip it.  I'm not having a shower- I declined two offers for my own reasons.

goobersinlove

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bridal-shower-invitations-for-bride-who-already-has-the-basics?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:bffce850-98ab-4c8d-8b05-0a0f6d66a6d4Post:488668e4-7ff2-4d32-8b21-f5db381c0d34">Re: Bridal shower invitations for bride who already has the basics.</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridal shower invitations for bride who already has the basics. : I could skip the shower. I regret now buying all the stuff from Bath and Body Works to give as prizes. I've been a bridesmaid three times and have thrown three really nice showers for my friends. Selfish as it sounds, I wanted my turn to have a nice shower too even though I already live with my fiance. But it's probably best to not have one anyways, my mother told me she can't pitch in any money for it. I know etiquette says the bridal party pays but where I'm from it's usually the brides parents. My bridal party are all struggling financially so I also don't expect them to fork over cash they don't have.
Posted by bookishvirgo[/QUOTE]

Etiquette does not say "the bridal party pays" - etiquette says that the bride does not host a party (such as shower) in her own honor. Anyone can <em>offer</em> to through you a shower (anyone from your bridal party, your mom, and aunt, a sister, etc.), but if no one <em>offers</em> to through you one, you simply do not have a shower. You shouldn't plan your own.

Kate61487

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bridal-shower-invitations-for-bride-who-already-has-the-basics?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:bffce850-98ab-4c8d-8b05-0a0f6d66a6d4Post:bbf7aba1-9e07-413e-a91e-5eba932f8cca">Re: Bridal shower invitations for bride who already has the basics.</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridal shower invitations for bride who already has the basics. : Etiquette does not say "the bridal party pays" - etiquette says that the bride does not host a party (such as shower) in her own honor. Anyone can offer to through you a shower (anyone from your bridal party, your mom, and aunt, a sister, etc.), but if no one offers to through you one, you simply do not have a shower. You shouldn't plan your own.
Posted by goobersinlove[/QUOTE]

ditto this 100%

amyelise25

I'm just spit-balling, but could you gather the women for something else and not call it a shower (gifts not expected)? I'm in your same shoes with already having everything and my sister has organized a beach weekend for most of my female guests (those excluded are from out of town). I have a small wedding, so this works for my situation. I don't want expect gifts.