Anyone else watch the Suze Orman show last night?

scpalmtree06

A caller asked her if it would be okay to ask for cash wedding gifts to pay off their $100k+ student loan debt in lieu of actual presents.  Suze was very supportive of the idea, even suggesting that she put a chart on their wedding website detailing how an $X amount gift would pay of Y% of the debt.  FWIW, the caller said they weren't having a "big" wedding, although we all know the definition of "big" is relative.

I thought many of you over here would be horrified!

JadziaDax

I didn't see it, but I'll look it up online. Although I don't owe $100,000 in loans, i'd be horrified to identify any debt on my wedding website for guests to see.

noodle_oo

Wow, that's horrible!!!  I usually watch and enjoy Suze, but missed last night.  But yeah, that is bad advice. 

I do have to say watching Suze Orman together raelly helped DH and I get on the same financial page before we got married.  It was a great way to open up discussion about how we each feel about finances!

MissOwl

wow...just wow. i was actually watching last night but fell asleep almost right away. i'm shocked! i can't even imagine letting my guests into my 'debt life' and expecting them to pay for it. i usually hold back on the word tacky but this is a totally appropriate time to use it.

mica178

I think Suze Orman is very practical, but I wouldn't go to her for etiquette advice.

Goldlie11

Did she mean it's okay to use the money for the SLs or specifically ask for money to do so?  There's a difference.  Once you get the money, you are free to use it in any way you see fit.  

katiewhompus

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_anyone-else-watch-suze-orman-show-last-night?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:c135501a-7ddd-4678-9ca1-37159b6ef923Post:2179032e-12cd-4dce-bbd7-70d9dd4010c9">Re: Anyone else watch the Suze Orman show last night?</a>:
[QUOTE]wow...just wow. i was actually watching last night but fell asleep almost right away. i'm shocked!<strong> i can't even imagine letting my guests into my 'debt life'</strong> and expecting them to pay for it. i usually hold back on the word tacky but this is a totally appropriate time to use it.
Posted by MissOwl[/QUOTE]

This. Our families know where we stand because they give us advice but I would be...unsettled...putting that information out there for all of our extended families and friends to see.

I know Suze has a lot of followers, but the couple of times I've seen her show I was not impressed and felt like it did not help me at all.

Kate504

I have a good amount of SLs (not 100k) and a lot of my family members do know that, but I would not put it on my wedding website to advertise to my extended family.

scpalmtree06

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_anyone-else-watch-suze-orman-show-last-night?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:c135501a-7ddd-4678-9ca1-37159b6ef923Post:f4b56730-3177-4ab6-9ed1-eef4c823d71e">Re: Anyone else watch the Suze Orman show last night?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Anyone else watch the Suze Orman show last night? : I didn't see this particular episode but I think she meant it was okay to use the money they got towards their SLs.
Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]

Oh no!  She was saying it was okay to sollicite money for the purpose of paying off the SLs.