My wedding is 10/16/10 where I grew up, the Quad Cities (QCA, Iowa/IL border) but I now live in Chicago. I've had several offers from people to throw me showers so I'm currently scheduled to have 3, which is excess, I know!
The mother of my FG & FB was the first to offer to throw me a shower, in Chicago and I accepted. After talking w/some BM's we decided to do the shower the same weekend as the bachlorette party to minimize travel costs for everyone.
The second offer I had for a shower was from a long time family friend in the QCA. I accepted the offer but then after a few months wondered if I shouldn't have because my BMs and their mom's would like to throw a shower for me, also in the QCA. We discussed the overlap of the Chicago shower and I insisted that they should not feel obligated to give a gift at each shower.
After talking w/my mom we decided we could do three showers and invite
1.Chicago: Chicago friends and family, BMs
2.Family friend: invite family friends and local relatives
3. BMs/moms; invite all BMs, their moms and local friends
Our family friend has not communicated with me for about 2 months, in this time she's become the grandmother (first time) of 2 children (her daughters were both pregnant at the same time). She's very involved in their lives and doesn't answer my calls or emails. I totally understand that she's super busy with them and wonder if there's a polite way to ask her if she's still interested in throwing the shower and/or to tell her I understand if she's too busy to commit to it w/her new grandchildren?