FI and I are avid ballroom dancers, so of course we want to dance on our wedding day. Since so many of our friends are also dancers, we're thinking about renting a studio for a few hours after our afternoon wedding reception and hosting a dance. Not just a get out shake your booty dance, but a proper ballroom party. I'm trying to figure out a few logistical and etiquette issues. While several children will be at our wedding and reception both at FI's childhood church, I don't want them at the dance. Maybe this sounds harsh, but if you've ever seen Dancing with the Stars... imagine a dozen couples chachaing on the floor all at the same time. Now imagine a dozen kids, most of them on meds for emotional, developmental, or behavioral problems, running into people and not understanding why everyone is mad at them. How do I let people know that the postreception dance is 21? Is this something to deal with on our invitation/RSVP card suite? Or should the afterparty be a separate invite? Word of mouth? FWIW, the families with kids all live nearby and often share babysitters. I don't think it would be too burdensome financially or logistically to drop the kids off on the way to the dance. I'm hoping that since all the moms of these kids have been dancing with me before, they'll understand that it's not really a place for kids, plus it's not the reception, which of course the kids will be invited to, but an afterparty that will take place after the reception. Thoughts? Suggestions? Thanks!