How many showers did you have?

KentuckyKate

I had three.  I tried to get out of one, but my family insisted.  I felt the same way you did.

Celles

I'm not having any.  I don't know who would throw one, since I don't have a lot of girlfriends and I don't think my few female relatives know that showers are even customary.  I think I'm more relieved than disappointed; I hate being the center of attention. 

skippylouwho

I work part time at Macy's, a couple months ago we had a woman come in and buy complete outfits for her daughter's 6 showers, rehearsal dinner, and brunch the morning after. She already had her outfit for the wedding. When I say complete outfits I mean the clothing, jewelry, shoes, handbags, etc.  It wasn't my sale, wish it was. I know she bought some things on sale but she wasn't necessarily looking for sale items. I don't know the total bill but it had to be pretty big.

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I only had one. I was going to have to (one for each side of the family) but opted to do just one bigger one. Living out of state is hard and it would have been too expensive for me to fly home multiple time, take time off of work, etc.

If you have a big family and a lot of friends, I don't see anything wrong with having three. I think it just means you are loved a lot.

mrscarter052011

I haven't had any bridal showers but my SIL had 5 baby showers.  We threw her one, her mom who lives out of state threw one with the family there, her step-mom threw one, her work and her friends at home (in yet another state).  It was exhausting for her but the only "repeat" guests were me and the moms. 

mica178

I had one official shower.  Additionally, my in-laws threw H and me a surprise wedding shower.  And my MIL threw me a pre-wedding brunch when I was visiting her in FL where a bunch of guests showed up with gifts.

jessienjeremy

My friend had 4.. and I was invited to all of them.. alot of us were..

That seemed gift grabby...

I am only having 1 big one.. Probably 40-50 people.

moosebaby2011

I had two.  One was thrown by my bridesmaids in my hometown, and the other by my coworkers.

bonnyandtim

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_many-showers-did?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:c20d21dc-f91d-47b6-9a67-009f5541a42ePost:b187490c-620f-4e8a-80cf-4c74543f23d6">Re: How many showers did you have?</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm having two.  One thrown by my MOH and a BM this weekend.  (Mostly friends and my side of the fam).  The 2nd shower is being done by FI's mom and sister and is for his side of the family.
Posted by ILoveMilkDuds[/QUOTE]

I had the same (BMs did my friends & family. FMIL did FI's family)

Kate504

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_many-showers-did?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:c20d21dc-f91d-47b6-9a67-009f5541a42ePost:d1fb1b77-9189-48b5-b040-05c365389308">Re: How many showers did you have?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: How many showers did you have? : I'm from southern Kentucky, and this is true of my area as well.  In fact, some people think it's completely rude to bring gifts to the wedding.  Weird? 
Posted by AliGirl11[/QUOTE]
 I live in New Orleans and I know of people mostly to bring gift to only th shower. Atleasts thats what my family does. I have never really noticed a "gift table"

LittleMissBear

I had 1 shower, but they had a lunch thing with cake for me at work. My BMs threw me one and ask my parents and my fmil lists of people to invite.

As long as you don't host your own I don't think it's gift grabby.

Calypso1977

zero, by choice.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

I had 0, unless you count the surprise cake, sparkling cider, and gift card at work. My mother had 2. One with her friends and one thrown by my dad's mom. 

HGlisson

I had 6 - actually 7 if you include the one they had for me at work. None of this was by choice and we even turned down the offers to have more. However, none of the same people were invited to each shower. My husband and I are from 2 small towns in GA - his near the AL line and mine near the SC line. All of our friends who recently got married had about the same amount.

In his town his parents' friends hosted us a couples shower, our friends hosted us a couples shower and the church hosted a ladies shower. In my town my parents' friends/our friends hosted us a couples shower, my cousin/aunts hosted a ladies shower, and my grandmother's friend hosted a ladies shower which, was mostly church ladies.

I was exhausted from it all and I'm STILL writing thank-you notes from a couple of those showers, in addition to the wedding gifts and others that still keep coming in. Most people here give you gifts at the shower though, instead of the wedding. I think its all about where you're from, because each place has its customs and traditions. Besides, what do you say when people offer to have something for you?

I definitely feel like the fewer you have, the better - for your own personal sanity if anything.

BluValkyrie

I haven't had any yet, but I'll probably end up with at least 2.

My Mom on the other hand, had 4:  Her family, my Dad's family, a college one, and a work one.

JCM10

The max I'll end up with is 3...each side of the family (2 different states) and possibly a friend one. I think 3-4 is perfectly normal...I just can't imagine having 5+ groups of people that didn't overlap! I have friends (from college mostly...some work, but they all went to my university), and then family. 

Showers here are gift giving occasions in addition to the wedding. One gift for each. Normally I get something bride-oriented (china) for the shower, then something more couple oriented for the wedding. 

DramaGeek

I had three - one with FILs family, one with MILs family and one with close family friends.  Notice anything missing?  Yeah, my family and my friends.  No one ever thought to invite my bridesmaids or MOH, the jerks.

But I'm not bitter