HELP! RSVP FROM FAMILY THAT WE DID NOT INVITE TO THE WEDDING!

smsax

I just received an RSVP from the invitation that my fiance and I sent to my great aunt and her husband. On the RSVP, the names of my great aunt's daughter and granddaughter were instead written! WTF? We were very deliberate in creating our guest list, and because of our large families, extended family wasn't invited. Not to mention that I am not too fond of the two who RSVP'd. What do I do??

cengle

You call them and apologize for the misunderstanding, but that the invitation was for great aunt and her husband, and that you cannot accommodate additional guests.

pantherRN

"Hi Aunt Jane, I'm sorry if you misunderstood, but the invitation was for you and Uncle John. We hope the two of you can make it!"

hlq2011

You can call up and say you're sorry but the daughter and granddaughter were not invited, because your guest list did not include extended family.  It was rude of them to write them in, but they're probably looking at it as if they're sending someone else to represent their family.

Or you can let them come, because you've already budgeted for the two you invited, who are not coming.

Mrs.B6302007

Call them and tell them the invite was for Sally and Joe.

I don't think I've ever heard of someone completely passing the invite along to someone else on the boards before.

Meg1036

Stop yelling.

Call your great aunt and explain that there must have been a misunderstanding.  You are unable to accommodate her daughter and granddaughter at the wedding.  That's it.

midgetthemighty

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[QUOTE]You can call up and say you're sorry but the daughter and granddaughter were not invited, because your guest list did not include extended family.  It was rude of them to write them in, but they're probably looking at it as if they're sending someone else to represent their family.<strong> Or you can let them come, because you've already budgeted for the two you invited, who are not coming.
</strong>Posted by hlq2011[/QUOTE]

I understand the logic here, but I think this would probably cause some drama in the family as extended was not invited.

LDYGTR13

OMG ITS THE END OF THE WORLD!!!!!!!!!

ETA: I swear I'm not trying to be snarky, but you're yelling and it's freaking me out.

hlq2011

midget, I would think so too, but it probably depends on the situation.  And it wouldn't be my preference to go that route, but, I figured I'd throw it out there.

baystateapple

Ditto PP.  I'd also call the great-aunt and let her know that you didn't appreciate passing the invitation on without your consent.

Buuuut maybe I'm just biitchy.

Habs2Hart

two words

Smack down

LDYGTR13

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[QUOTE]two words Smack down
Posted by Habs2Hart[/QUOTE]

cengle

Holy cannoli, that is an amazing picture. A-Mazing.

Habs2Hart

LD, Win

pantherRN

Oh man LDY. You win.

jemmini6

LDY- that pic just made my day.  If anyone RSVPs with additional (or different) people, I am going to mail them back their RSVP with their additions crossed off and include that picture with a little text bubble coming out of the mouth saying "WHAT PART OF NAMES ON AN INVITATION DON'T YOU UNDERSTAND?"

nontradduo

That is the best pic ever! 
And yes, I agree with the other ladies- invitations are not a free for all, are non-transferable, and are not redeemable for cash and all that.
I feel like the back of invitations need to have a statement similar to that of coupons...
I don't know about you ladies, but sometimes I feel I brides really get the bad end of the etiquette stick when guests do silly things like transfer their invites.  I wonder what "good" stories I'm going to have when my RSVPs start rolling in.
Good luck smsax!