Not inviting the Groom"s Mother

funnygirl2no

How do yu politely NOT invite the MOTHER of the Groom.  How do you go about sending invites and save the dates and insure the Mother does not find out about the wedding./??    IF some of the guests do not get along with the Mother...is it right to Not invite her and replace her with the father's new girlfriend ? 
THis scenario happened this past weekend.  I am the MOTHER who found out about the wedding on the KNOT !.   What would have been the proper ettiquette in handling this very hurtful situation ?  I did show to the wedding and was recieved by DIrty Looks , this may not be proper etiquette but leaving the MOM out was in Poor taste...after all ..there would be NO wedding without The MOM !

laurenclaire1386

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[QUOTE]How do yu politely NOT invite the MOTHER of the Groom.  How do you go about sending invites and save the dates and insure the Mother does not find out about the wedding./??    IF some of the guests do not get along with the Mother...is it right to Not invite her and replace her with the father's new girlfriend ?  THis scenario happened this past weekend.  I am the MOTHER who found out about the wedding on the KNOT !.   What would have been the proper ettiquette in handling this very hurtful situation ?  I did show to the wedding and was recieved by DIrty Looks , this may not be proper etiquette but leaving the MOM out was in Poor taste...after all ..there would be NO wedding without The MOM !
Posted by funnygirl2no[/QUOTE]
Oh dear lord.

kellyjellybelly

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[QUOTE]How do yu politely NOT invite the MOTHER of the Groom.  How do you go about sending invites and save the dates and insure the Mother does not find out about the wedding./??    IF some of the guests do not get along with the Mother...is it right to Not invite her and replace her with the father's new girlfriend ?  THis scenario happened this past weekend.  I am the MOTHER who found out about the wedding on the KNOT !.   What would have been the proper ettiquette in handling this very hurtful situation ?  I did show to the wedding and was recieved by DIrty Looks , this may not be proper etiquette but leaving the MOM out was in Poor taste...after all ..there would be NO wedding without The MOM !
Posted by funnygirl2no[/QUOTE]
Just a hunch, but I have a feeling there is a lot more to it than 'some of the guests don't get along with the mother'<div>how would one find out about the wedding on the knot?</div>

Beachy730

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[QUOTE]How do yu politely NOT invite the MOTHER of the Groom.  How do you go about sending invites and save the dates and insure the Mother does not find out about the wedding./??    IF some of the guests do not get along with the Mother...is it right to Not invite her and replace her with the father's new girlfriend ?  THis scenario happened this past weekend.  I am the MOTHER who found out about the wedding on the KNOT !.   What would have been the proper ettiquette in handling this very hurtful situation ?  I did show to the wedding and was recieved by DIrty Looks , this may not be proper etiquette but leaving the MOM out was in Poor taste...after all ..there would be NO wedding without The MOM !
Posted by funnygirl2no[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I'm really sorry that happened to you.  But crashing the wedding definitely wasn't the way to go.  So I am finding it ironic that you are asking the proper way of handling the situaiton when you clearly are asking too late.  </div><div>
</div><div>And FTR, the advice they most likely would have received (unless they had legitimate reasons for not inviting you like abuse, etc.) would have been to invite you and expect all adutls to act like adults for one day.  But it's looking like we would have been proven wrong.  </div><div>
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Grammar

Are you serious with this?

aleighk1

Wait, I don't get it. You're the MOG?

nurse.misty

Just WOW.

LOLways

Made Up Drama.

nurse.misty

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[QUOTE]Wait, I don't get it. You're the MOG?
Posted by aleighk1[/QUOTE]

Yes.

kcscejal

I'm going to guess there was a reason you weren't invited. We clearly don't know the whole story, but there is no law that says parents MUST be invited. They usually are, and if someone came and asked if they should invite their mother I would usually advise that they should, but crashing the wedding is not the way to handle that situation.

Beachy730

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[QUOTE]Made Up Drama.
Posted by LOLways[/QUOTE]

<div>So you created an account today, and used your first post ever to call MUD?  Not that I'm saying it isn't MUD, but I'm definitely calling AE on you.</div>

Grammar

You weren't invited because this is MUD, and you are bad and should feel bad for posting this.

mixtapehearts

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Not inviting the Groom"s Mother : So you created an account today, and used your first post ever to call MUD?  Not that I'm saying it isn't MUD, but I'm definitely calling AE on you.
Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]

<div>My thoughts exactly.</div><div>
</div><div>Although my Mud sensor is for sure twitching...</div>

aleighk1

OP, it's a little late to do anything. 

LOLways

What's it to ya?

KentuckyKate

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Not inviting the Groom"s Mother : So you created an account today, and used your first post ever to call MUD?  Not that I'm saying it isn't MUD, but I'm definitely calling AE on you.
Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]
Am I drunk or isn't today the 14th?  Either way, AE confirmed.  --^

CRASHER1

well,  i see that the posters who complain are the posters who have posts in the thousands...They have nothing going on it looks like....nothing productive exceptbashing true stories.    THese people are soap opera people , they need to get a life.   The humor is absent. like LOL who says "wHAT'S IT TO YA?"  SHE HAS ONLY 7 POSTS AND I ONLY 4.  sO IT IS OBVIOUS  WHO THE  REAL TROUBLEMAKERS ARE !