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Of COURSE that happened.

Buddy was on the phone with his grandmother, who had called (which no one in his famiyl EVER does) to ask if her partner could crash with us one night while she's here for training. Sure, no big.

Just as he's about to get off the phone, though, she says something, which he repeats:

"Do we have any extra invitations? Umm... why?"

And I'm shaking my head like, no, no, it's too late, we do not have any more.

Except? It wasn't that she wanted to invite more people.

Buddy's MOM - who lives with his grandmother and her partner - did not get an invitation. They live in the same house, and his grandmother & partner got an invite, while his mom (and half sister and brother) got nothing.

His grandmother relays the message FOR his mom, "You know, even though she isn't coming, she still would like to have an invitation..."

I SENT ONE. I SWEAR I sent one. I sent them all out on the same day. Of all the stupid invitations to get lost, it WOULD have to be that one.

Unless it shows up sometime soon, his mom is NEVER going to believe I didn't deliberately do it. She's always called herself the "black sheep" of the family, claims no one likes her, and a whole bunch of other stuff that is not suitable to get into here.

She's never going to believe I just didn't send an invite because I don't like her.

Of course, complicating matters is the fact that I DON'T like her, but that's based on Buddy's past and the way she currently treats (completely ignores) him, not the two times I've ever met her and the 6 words she's ever said to me.

But I DID send that stupid invitation and now this is going to be held over my head FOREVER uughhhhh.

No need for advice, as his mother will refuse to allow this to be solved or assuaged in any way, just wanted to say... OF COURSE THAT WAS THE INVITATION THAT GOT LOST.
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  • Ooph.  I'm so sorry about that!  Hopefully her invitation will get returned to you so you can show her the original post-date? 

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  • Sucks. Sorry, I got nothin. BUT I did want to come in here and ask how the venue thing turned out, ffs.
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  • Thank you, mica. That's Sheldon.

    LVB - The new woman seems ok. She sent me our banquet order, which did indeed have almost everything correct. My mom met with her, and I didn't press my mom for details about compensation, but I assume something happened. The new woman responds to me SUPER fast, so I assume my mom said SOMETHING that wasn't good.

    The only bump we've had is that she's sent both me and my mom different versions of our catering order. Which is weird.

    I won't get to meet with her myself until late September, but she doesn't seem TOO horrible.
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  • Ugh. Murphy's Law of wedding planning: the invitation you most do not want to get lost, will get lost.
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  • edited August 2010
    We had so much trouble with the post office when we mailed our invitations. H brother's invitation came back to us. He lives with his parents at the same address and the IL's got their invite just fine. Neither one of us understood that one. Go figure. Then we mailed one to H's Aunt and Uncle, they claimed they never got it, but it never came back either. They ended up missing our wedding and sending us a card and money afterwards.

    Hopefully it will come back so you can show her. For now, I would send another and have your FI back you up to tell her that you guys sent it.
  • The invitation getting lost sucks, and the fact that Buddy's mom treats him like crap sucks.
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  • That sucks. One of DH's cousins and his GF didn't get their invitation and even though I repeatedly told the family it must have gotten lost, the GF was still concerned that they "weren't really invited."

  • Too bad you didn't send it certified mail-- then you would have proof. There really isn't much you can do. maybe take s a sample, or ask to 'borrow' someone you knows and see if a print shop can replicate it-- then HAND deliver it-- lol
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  • For me it was his Gramdmother's apparently. I KNOW I sent it. At least it wasn't his mother's...that one would just solidify the fact that I AM a minion of Satan. With his Gram it will probably just comfirm that my only goal in life is to rip their family apart.
  • My MIL said she never received a thank you card!  And I remember writing it and sending it.  I knew I did it and she wouldn't let it go.
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_of-course-happened?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:c293ed63-a062-4bb6-bdc0-afb7cd63b5d9Post:91fc7eb7-2894-421b-aa40-cb2a9ef8a850">Re: Of COURSE that happened.</a>:
    [QUOTE]Ugh. Murphy's Law of wedding planning: the invitation you most do not want to get lost, will get lost.
    Posted by msmerymac[/QUOTE]

    or vise versa.
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