is it rude, i come from a very large family, (my moms side alone is 73 people and thats not to include my step dads family (he's 1 of 5) and my real dads family (he's also 1 of 5 children))I'm the youngest of 3 and my immediate family is ten people not to mention two aunts and two cousins i'm close to. I don't want my wedding to be full of people who I haven't talked to in years and who have not been nice to me in the past. is it rude for us to have a small wedding and reception and then have a larger party later, so I can have my dream wedding and reception and then can worry about everything else another day?