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Hi Ladies- my best friend of over twenty (yes 2-0) is getting married and I think I'm more excited about her wedding than I even was about mine- hence, I am back on the knot after almost 4 years.  We live a few states apart, so that limits my immediate involvement but I wated to poll you guys and get some good ideas of things you wish(ed) your MOH would do/did for you.  She's very laid back and easy going but I really want to make this whole engagement/planning process as wonderful for her as she is to me, so hit me with your suggestions please :)  What would you want your MOH to do for you???? Funny, weird, serious, sentimental: all are welcome!

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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_moh-wish-list-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:c2d34361-b13c-45fe-b9fd-8e9e673d8c1fPost:6dfc3362-7593-4fe1-ad8b-e7e47964812b">MOH WIsh List</a>:
    [QUOTE]Hi Ladies- my best friend of over twenty (yes 2-0) is getting married and I think I'm more excited about her wedding than I even was about mine- hence, I am back on the knot after almost 4 years.  We live a few states apart, so that limits my immediate involvement but I wated to poll you guys and get some good ideas of things you wish(ed) your MOH would do/did for you.  She's very laid back and easy going but I really want to make this whole engagement/planning process as wonderful for her as she is to me, so hit me with your suggestions please :)  What would you want your MOH to do for you???? Funny, weird, serious, sentimental: all are welcome!
    Posted by CarleyBo[/QUOTE]

    I don't have a maid of honor, just two bridesmaids.

    I expect them to show up sober and clean in the agreed upon dress and have an awesome time.

    I hope they take me out for drinks sometime before the wedding. 

    that is all.

    Clearly, I'm boring.
  • My MOH is also a distance away. What I really want is someone that I am close to and trust 100% with me on my wedding day, hanging out with me while we get ready and sharing in a day that is important to me.

    A shower/bachlorette would be nice if it works out, but not required (I happen to know that my shower is being planned by a different BM because she's already talking to me about it lol).

    Sounds like you're excited, which is great :) Just be there for her and enjoy the experience with her! She'll love having you along with her that day!
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_moh-wish-list-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:c2d34361-b13c-45fe-b9fd-8e9e673d8c1fPost:d8bc357e-ef3c-40a3-9d3d-78f82132eb2d">Re: MOH WIsh List</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to MOH WIsh List : I don't have a maid of honor, just two bridesmaids. <strong>I expect them to show up sober and clean in the agreed upon dress and have an awesome time.</strong> I hope they take me out for drinks sometime before the wedding.  that is all. Clearly, I'm boring.
    Posted by MyUserName1[/QUOTE]

    <div>I have to ditto this.  I don't expect anything else from them at all, nor do I want anything else. </div>
  • First, I agree with PPs that all I am asking of and expecting from my MOHs/BMs is to show up at my wedding, in a dress that matches the few requests I made, preferably sober.
    That being said, I'll share some of the extra things they have done that I really appreciate. One has gone wedding dress shopping with me and also to a bridal show. All of them have asked questions about the planning and allowed me to share and vent. My sisters (co-MOHs) are planning a bachelorette party, and all the other girls are involved as well. My sisters also flew out (one from across the country) for the big wedding dress shop and purchase with our mom. My sisters have also helped make some of the DIY decorations we're doing. We'll also all be spending the day together getting ready, which I am excited about.
    I think your attitude alone will make you a wonderful MOH - the main thing is being happy for and excited for the bride, and offering to do whatever you can or want to do to be involved. Have fun!
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  • Mine are at a distance, so they're not doing much in the usual sense, but it just perks my day up when I get an e-mail from a groomsman saying my bridesmaid (his wife) just broke out grinning out of nowhere, because she thought about the wedding, or when she demands more details about the dress shopping trip that she couldn't go to.  She's excited and happy for me, and that can always brighten my day.
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  • Like PPs, I didn't expect anything more than showing up from my WP.  But, they did more than that.

    One of my BMs was a few states away.  She spent the time and money to fly in for my B-party, even though her schedule and finances are tight.  I was so touched that she would do that for me.  

    Other than that, it was really nice that my friends threw me a b-party, threw a shower, went dress shopping with me, asked about planning, helped with projects like DIY, and were just generally awesome friends.  
  • Birdie1483Birdie1483 member
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    edited December 2011
    My MOH bitched out the florist when our flowers showed up an hour late. I luff her.

    But she also threw me a very lovely shower and b-party. She planned the date of the b-party ahead of time to ensure that all of our friends could go.





    ETA: She was actually very calm with the florist delivery guy. She asked to speak to someone in the shop on the phone and very calmly, but assertively, told them that the flowers were supposed to be there an hour earlier. And some other stuff.
  • Like some others said, when my MOH asked specific questions and let me complain about my MIL and was on my side, it was the best.  One of my other friends bought me like 7 bridal magazines which I thought was really nice and great way to show that she was excited.  Also, my MOH handled everything really well the day of when it was looking like rain- she didn't let me know anything that was going on but slyly found out what my backup plan "was".  Being really excited the day of- not complaining about her hair or makeup or how long pictures took, etc.  When  you have a good group of girls that keep their comments to themselves, it makes the day so much more enjoyable.  Also, creating wedding playlistsfor the morning of and a cd for the limo with fun music.
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