Champagne toast

jlm9113

I was under the impression that, if you do a champagne toast, it's proper ettiquette that everyone who's of age be offered champagne.  My FI insists that only the wedding party and close family need to be offered champage and it's fine to offer only something like sparkling cider to everyone else.

Which is the proper way to go about this?

TIA!

emilykathleen511

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[QUOTE]I just want to make sure I'm not nuts here... I was under the impression that, if you do a champagne toast, it's proper ettiquette that everyone who's of age be offered champagne.  My FI insists that only the wedding party and close family need to be offered champage and it's fine to offer only something like sparkling cider to everyone else. Which is the proper way to go about this? TIA!
Posted by jlm9113[/QUOTE]

<div>You are 100% correct. Anything offered to you and the wedding party must be offered to all of your guests. It would be extremely rude to offer the champagne to only the guests you have deemed "special." If you just want to share a champagne toast with your wedding party, I suggest doing it earlier in the day before you enter the reception, when it is JUST you and the wedding party.</div><div>
</div><div>FWIW, most people don't even do a champagne toast anymore. The guests just toast the couple with whatever they happen to be drinking at the time.</div>

achiduck

Yup, everyone has to be offered champagne if you're doing it. We are doing a champagne toast, but most of our family and friends enjoy it. Unless it's popular in your circle you'll probably be wasting money.

jlm9113

Thanks!

QueerFemme

Everyone should be offered champagne. Not just the WP. We did it, but our guests enjoy champagne and we kept it flowing for a good hour after the toast.

kmmssg

Just have your guests toast with whatever they are drinking.  Glad you are on the right track on this being rude to only offer to the wedding party and family.  You got some training to do with FI. but lots of guys are rough around the edges anyway.

AdeleDazeem

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[QUOTE]I was under the impression that, if you do a champagne toast, it's proper ettiquette that everyone who's of age be offered champagne.  My FI insists that only the wedding party and close family need to be offered champage and it's fine to offer only something like sparkling cider to everyone else. Which is the proper way to go about this? TIA!
Posted by jlm9113[/QUOTE]

No.  It's not.  Everyone at the reception is an equal and should be treated as such.

At my brother in law's wedding, only the wedding party got champagne and I was rather pissed.  It's unfair to tier your guests like that.  Offer it to all.

EDIT: Lots of people DO like champagne but it's not at all a universal drink.  I'd offer it at the bar so people can get some if they like it.  We did a champagne toast (everyone had champagne) at our wedding and it was one of my favorite parts!

Summer2011Bride

I think just having everyone toast with what they're drinking is the way to go. I've been at weddings where everyone had a glass of champagne, and honestly, many sat the whole night without being drunk. A lot of people don't care for champagne. Perhaps have champagne as an option at the bar for those who want it, but otherwise, guests can toast with what they like to drink.

banana468

I loathe the practice of treating the WP and some famiy better than the rest of the guests.

It makes me want to invite the newlyweds over for dinner with a large group where I'll feed some the good stuff and the rest - DiGiorno pizza.

Calypso1977

id just have people toast without champagne. 

i love champagne, but usually at weddings people serve the cheap stuff (korbel, etc.) so i dont even drink it.