Parents' Names on Invitations

kgrawedding

We are having a pretty formal and traditional church wedding with sit-down plated dinner reception.  I know "proper" etiquette is Mr. and Mrs. Father'sFirst Last but that has always bugged me all my life.  I would rather the invitations read "Mr. First and Mrs. First Last request the honor..." or "Mr. and Mrs. Last request the honor..."  On a scale of 1 to 10, how wrong is it?  I'm trying to decide if this is a battle I should fight, or if I should just give in.

ETA: My parents are hosting and paying about 75%.  My mother prefers Mr. and Mrs. Father'sFirst Last.  I just find that wording very sexist and would rather not have it that way on my wedding invitations.  Even if I pay for the invitations myself, my mother would still demand to have control of the wording.

aragx6

Mrs. (or Ms.) Jane and Mr. John Doe is the way to go here. We addressed several of our envelopes that way.

snuff9861

Who's hosting the wedding? If your parents are, you could always ask them how they would like their names to appear on the invite? You could do Mr and Mrs Momfirst and Dadfirst Lastname .... wordy yes but gets both of their names on their if that's what you're concerned about. If you and FI are hosting, you can omit everyone's names and just put "The honour of your presence"

Kate61487

I think its your mom's name so she shoud get to choose how it's displayed.  If she wants Mr & Mrs Father's Name then that's what it should be.

Calypso1977

your mom would prefer it Mr. and Mrs. John Smith.  That's technically proper wording.  While you migth find it sexist, there are many women, particularly of older generations, who prefer to be addressed that way.  my mom, for example, prefers Mrs. John Smith when being addressed even alone. 

you could do Jane and John Smith but that is not as formal.

secondtimemob

My daughter is using:

Dadsname and Momsname Lastname

and

Groomsdadsname and Groomsmomsname Lastname

invite you to share in their joy......

My husband and I are paying for the majority of the wedding, with the bride and groom also contributing.  As far as we know, the inlaws are not contributing, but I agree with daughter in wanting all the names on there.  And I love not being Mrs. Dadsname....